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writes:ok in need of advice.i just found out last night that my ex slept with a 26 year old guy 2 weeks after we broke up and shes only 20... i never liked this guy, he was a guy she met at her new job and in the last six months of our relationship he was texting her every day. the worst part about it is i had suspected something was up and confronted her and she said "no hes old fat and bald" which he is. the guy looks like a meth head. and she slept with him. i want to kno if i should confront her on this wen she and i meet up for lunch she owes me a little money for a bill she has in my name and i owe her a little money from wen i didnt have enough 1 time to pay a bill or two. or break up was a little rocky but after the first month she and i began to be civil to each other. the worst part is wen she slept with him she was drunk i feel like he took advantige of her and i want to kick this guys ass. should i go to lunch with her or should i just cut the cell phone she has in my name off and just cut all ties with this girl? im brokin inside and out and i cant even beleave it but im still in love with this girl. help me b4 this shithole situation gets worse please
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reader, southerncharmer62 +, writes (25 July 2009):
gonna have to forget about this one. I do know how you are pissed off but she did what she wanted,and worse still confirmed your suspicions. This texting her everyday wouldnt have stopped until she wanted it to. old fat and bald to you,but attractive to her,or some gain by doing it. Gonna have to move forward because if you got back you are going to have a bad time living with it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2009): Jaime90 is correct. You and her are not together any longer. You have no control over what she does and should just stay out of it. She is not the first women to be looking for something after a break-up and allowing herself to get used for sex. That seems to happen a lot. They are depressed and looking for something to make them feel good or happy. Some guys do that too.
If you want to remain friends with her then you have to ignore what she is doing with other guys. It is no longer any of your business. If you cannot separate your feelings from her actions then a friendship is not possible. I remained friends with my ex wife for over a year and I never thought about what she was doing with other guys. I have no idea what she did. That is what you need to do or end the friendship.
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reader, jaime90  +, writes (25 July 2009):
 your broken up for a reason.. you cant act like shes cheating on you - shes single. i can imagine its hard to see someone you love like that, but there is nothing you can do. if you want to remain friends with her you are going to have to accept her being with other men, otherwise end the friendship.
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