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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I haven't heard from my daughter's dad for quite sometime. I left him because he cheated on me. His life was going downhill because he screwed up his career after 18 years, lost all benefits (pension, medical, retirement...whatever comes with it) and the list goes on. He had to serve his time in brigg (military confinement) for several months while I took the responsibility of his two kids from his first marriage, pregnant with my first child and carrying a full time job. Nonetheless, his son was very active in sports. So, I had to keep up with that too. To make a long story short, enough is enough. No more heartbreaks, no more emotional roller coaster, NO MORE!!! After trying and trying, I'm completely exhausted. During those times, I've became pregnant, due on Valentines Day. He hardly ever was around. We are getting ready to have a second child, more like..I am getting ready to have a second child in which he doubts his fatherhood (never felt so hurt by that, I told him to leave us alone, if he ever felt that). He called my job and left a message on the voice mail, keep in mind...I haven't heard from him for, 4 to 5 months, give or take a little. I've been feeling so exhausted but I force myself because I have to take care of my daughter who he signed over his rights because he said he had so much going on and work full time without any help from him. Did I return his phone call? NOPE!!! It's a pattern and I've had enough of his immature ways which he never grew out of, currently at 40 years old. I figure he would know better unfortunately, I figured wrong. I've tried and tried to work things out but it haven't been working. I completely stay away but he tends to find me. He emails me at work but I chose not to answer his emails after I mentioned several times to leave me alone. After of having enough and warned him several times by email and conversations, if it continues, I will report him to the proper authorities. He had no choice but to forward the email I sent to his superiors. I cc'd the base authorities along with a few others to make sure the right people knew of his actions after warning him.I just don't want to be bothered by him at all. He never called for her birthdays, Christmas, New Years, nothing. I know we're getting ready to have a second child but I don't want my kids to be upset with me when they get older because I've kept them away from there useless dad to prevent him treating them as part time kids when they need his full attention. Sometimes, I think I should let my kids see how their dad is for themselves to base their own judgment. My 3 year old already knows because of the questions and comments she makes. It's hurtful. For those who are either going through or have been in a situation similar, your advice is appreciated. Along with those who have suggestions. All is welcome to answer/comment on. Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your taking the time.
Some men suck. We figure, since they are older, they would know unfortunately, they don't.
I'm just tired of his mind games thinking I will put up with him having his cake and eating it too. It doesn't work like that.
I just want to be happy again. With him not being part of our lives indicates happiness.
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