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writes:I do not understand this guy. I fancy him and am starting to think I should forget about him as it is doing my head in, though I do like him.I have only met him about 4 times through work and he has been throwing these really intense vibes at me, eye contact then looking down or making an edgey though funny jokes but then getting really shy and running away, he is def gay and out. Like what does he expect me to do if he will not talk to me properly? It is kind of like he let the cat out of the bag that he likes me and is now running scared of me. He obviously talks to his work colleague about me as she is watching like a hawk when I go in now.I recently did not go near him for a bit, thinking he would calm down, but the next time he just seemed very upset with that I had not been in to see him.So if I go near him he gets too shy, if I go away he is upset and he makes me feel like it is my fault. We hardly know each other and he is so intense with me it makes it impossible to make a constructive approach to him or even just chat casually as people.Is he just getting some emotional self-therapy at my expense? The wierd thing is that he is very good looking, his face looks like he could conquer the world if he wanted. So do just not get it!Any ideas ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionno he is def gay and out, has had boy friends, that is what is so strange about his behaviour.??
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reader, Cokey +, writes (25 September 2007):
I don't think he is gay.. i don't think it would be that intense.. but here's a suggestion..
Be blunt and confident and ask to see him when you go for a coffee or lunch - or perhaps a walk in the park if you want it more private - anywhere that doesn't sound too much like a date.
Then ask him straight out - he may like you very much and feels like he is walking on eggshells when he is round you because he doesn't want to be doing the 'wrong thing' and wants to have a good lasting impression..
From what your saying, these actions tell me that he may be fearful of rejection, so it requires you being more forthright and taking the lead. If its aggravating you that much get the answer - whether its the one your want or not - so that way you can stop worrying! What's the worst that could happen?
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