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writes:Ok, so first off, I'm 16 years old, and I'm trying to figure out what I should do for what I guess you might call a relationship problem. I've never asked anybody out, before you start thinking poorly of me, I have some small social issues from expereinces when I was young and so I don't usually go with friends and stuff to hang out or whatever. Anyways, I'm a junior now, and first day freshman year I met an amazing girl. I didn't know how into her I was until she was in another one of my classes last year. She's a grade above me so I'd never met her in school before then. So we had a class together, and for the first half of the year we didn't really do much together, we talked a little and I helped her out, but only little things like that. About halfway through the year we started working together more. She would tell me that this other kid in the class liked her and she didn't like him, so we'd make our own group. So for about a month it was just us, then the rest of our group formed, comprsisng of two other guys and two other girls. It was all of our favorite class, we always sat together and grouped the desks up, but when we did the girl I like would usually want me to either sit next to her or directly across from her. If she sat next to me she would rest on my shoulder and write on my hands/arms, and if we sat across from each other she would write on me. One time I positioned myself at the farthest from her and she seemed a little sad and would always lean back when talking to me so we could see each other, naturally. But she would want to write on every other guys stuff in our group. She would write hearts and stuff on me and my notebooks, though, and not usually on theirs. She showed signs of flirting with me, I knew that, but there was always at least two guys she would always talk about, so I never asked her out because I didn't wan to seem like a jerk if she was saying how she liked them. We never hung out outside of class, but we talked whenever we saw each other. One time when she wasn't there and we didn't have any classwork, I was listening to my iPod when I notice everybody in the class was staring at me. I was like, what? They laughed and then one of them said, "they were talking about you and ***** again". Before that she went up to the guy who liked her that she didn't like after he took a picture of her resting on my shoulder and was whispering to his friend and she asked him in a kind of whisper like I wasn't supposed to hear and neither was anybody else, "what are you talking about? Me and *****?". My classmates would talk about us a lot and one of them even told someone while we were in our group, "and these two are *** and ***. They're like, totally in love" and we looked at each other and smiled and she blushed. But she was always talking about other guys so I never asked her out in fear of bein the cock and having her never like me. Now we never see each other, and she kind of I think maybe avoids me, like she'll sometimes log off facebook right after I log on. I think I missed my chance. Anyways, the problem is this year, I still really like her, I always think of her, but I know for a fact that there is another girl who likes me and I kind of like her. My problem is what should I do? I don't know if I should finally tell her I really really like her and kind of diss the girl who likes me, or go out with the girl who likes me even though me and the other girl flirted last year and I think it's still obvious to her that I like her a lot and she might like me, which would diss her which would suck. I don't want to make the wrong decision, because I'm going to be seeing the girl who likes me in one of my classes, and her best friend in another class every day for the red of the year, but the girl I really like isn't in any of my classes this year. I don't know if I can go out with the one who likes me for sure if I constantly think of the other one, like she is even in my dreams sometimes. I just don't know what to do, I've never been in a relationship before. Help???*sorry fir spelling/grammar I'm on my iPod and it's lagging a lot*
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2010): think of your happiness before others... i think maybe she doesnt talk to you anymore out of embarrassment i would probably do the same thing so dont worry about that... so which girl do you really like more? maybe talk to girl #1 and get her more comfortable with you again and see where it leads you.
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