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writes:Hi,I cant seem to get over my ex boyfriend! we broke up nearly 4 months ago and then got bk together but now have been broken up for over a month now! i cant remember any of the bad things that happend between us just the good and i miss him so much! When i try an talk to my friends and family about it they keep reminding me of why we broke up and its really getting me down.... he has completely shut me out of his life and changed his number.. when ever i see a picture of him my belly turns its so hard! i dont feel like i can move on,because he said if i every even kissed another lad or slept with anyone else when we broke up there would be no chance of us getting back togther! althought i know we will not get back together i cant seem to move on.. please can anyone give me some advice im getting really don about it! we were together for over 2 years an i thought he was the one thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2010): You really have to move on. Go be with someone else. You're beautiful. Always remember that. It may not feel like it now but think of times in the past when things felt hopeless. You made it and so did I. You will have to find ways to purge your pain somehow. Talk to someone, listen to music, read, go away, shop.
He has a right to leave or exit a relationship. How can he be denied what he feels? It hurts so much I know.
You have to keep at it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2010): How long were you with him?
I am in a similar situation, I can't get over my ex either and I was with him for 10months. I am still in love with him and I know what it's like. Every moment they are on your mind, you can't seem to remember the bad times only the good, the first kiss etc.
This is where our stories change, although I slept with my ex after about 2 weeks after we broke up. He NEVER threatened me to not be with someone else. If anything during our relationship he always thought he was never good enough and I deserved more. Sounds like your ex has mega issues. He FEELS like he KNOWS he can come back to you at any point! When he's feeling low. Don't give him the satisfaction. Don't let him think that you need him, be bold, sexy and beautiful make him regret that he has lost you! And when he eventually comes crawling back, (because he thinks he can) tell him, that you don't want him (EVEN IF YOU DO) He will be gutted. I still catch my ex glancing over at me and today he actually talked to me.
I know it is hard, it is SO HARD!!! Be strong and the saying "Time heals all wounds" It IS true, every person is different you may want more time or less.
I promise to you, I'm not over my ex and I have my up days and my very down days where I can't stop thinking of him but everyday gets a tiny bit easier.
I'm sorry for rambling on but I really hopes this helps you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2010): Someone who does not want you is not worth your time. It's his loss, not yours, trust me. Someone who breaks your heart and completely shuts you out, is not the person who you thought they were. Obviously, they are not. It will take time to get over the shock of this. But with time your heart will adjust to the new reality. He was not meant to be. He was not the one. The story repeated a thousand times a day every day all over the world. Do you have any idea how many people are breaking up all the time every day? You're not alone. You'll get over it. And you'll find someone who DOES love you. Obviously, he DOES NOT. And that's all you should be thinking about. That if he loved you, he'd be here with you. Not away from you. Think about it. It makes too much sense. And try a little, and I'm sure you can remember all the bad things about him, too... Not that you need to, all you need to do is fill your life with new things, in order to move on...
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reader, confusedd:(  +, writes (9 October 2010):
 aww sweetie, ive been in this situation with my ex, we were seeing eachother for two years aswel, being rejected is a horible thing, it makes you feel terrible, but this boy doesnt sound nice at all, hes totally shut you out of his life and doesnt want to know, i know all you want to do is show him how much hes hurt you but the only way to make him care at all is to move on, its easier said than done i know that but if he doesnt want you then why should you want him, and the fact that he's the one who pushed you away makes you want him even more, getting over someone isnt something that happens quickly, its something hard that happnens over time and can only happen if you try and get on with your life, go out with friends or family, change the way you look, getting a hair cut or dyed is a great way to make yourself feel different and better, try and form a completely different life from what once was because he isnt worht your time or upset and you'll find someone who loves and wants you and wouldent dream of hurting you one day :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2010): Hello i just sent a post of the same problam to be put on here. Im seeking advice aswell as 2 weeks ago my bf broke up wiv me n i really love him, i feel like u do that i cant move on i cant delete his pics of bin wot he brought me u feel the same? My answer is if u love him U LOVE HIM! love is a strong word and when one person is still holding onto that love like u and me then it must of really been worth it i wish i can help u but i need help myself do u have facebook? Rey if u do and wiv ur own advice i hope we can both do sumthing about this take care
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reader, Manofathousendlies +, writes (9 October 2010):
 You can't keep worrying about this kid forever. If you want to walk up to him and try to talk to him. If he ignores him then he is not worth your time or your sanity. Try to move on by talking to new people and trying new things. Go diiferent places. You can also try dating websites, thats how I got married. I can assure that you can find someone that cares about you and wants to listen to what you have to say. There is hope.
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