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male
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I've been with my GF for a little over a year now, During that year we had broken up for about a month and a half. She started seeing this guy. I started dating around too. eventually we ended up getting back together.This guy that she was dating she had met a couple months after we started dating. It was just friendly. I am not the type of guy who will ban her from having male friends because i have several female friends that i spend time with that i know from school. There was never a trust issue. I know i would not do her wrong as i believed she wouldn't either. She says she never slept with this guy but i slept with another girl. After we got back together out of respect for her i ended all contact with the girl i was seeing. My gf on the other hand as much as i stressed about her not talking to this guy she has not listened. Although they may only talk online through social networking sites. Its upsetting to me because i dislike this guy and i followed her wishes so why could she not mine? obviously she cant refrain herself from having a friendship with this guy so i told her she should be with him and that were over. This completely devastated her.Did i overreact? or blow things out of proportion?
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reader, Pshaw123 +, writes (21 November 2010):
If you have been dating for over a year, you obviously care for each other deeply. Just because you had sex with another girl during your break does not mean she had similar feeling towards the guy she was with during that time. It is often difficult to just end communication with someone if nothing bad transpired between you so why must she end communication with that guy? Of course, she has to see that it would make you uncomfortable and suspicious but, if got back together you must have reasons. Her relationship with this guy doesn't seem as "intense" as yours was. Im sorry, but i think you may have blown it out of proportion. For a long term relationship like that, it's necessary to communicate and discuss.
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