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writes: I made my girlfriend very upset. It's been over a month now and she is still very unhappy. I want to do something special to show her I love her and care about her but the problem is I don't know what to do. Please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (22 June 2006):
 Well give what I said a go, i just think she is feeling very insecure for some reason, You may need to find out why. Make sure you tell her that you love her often, as it seems shes feeling like you dont. Let her know how upset you are too and hopefully she will see how much you do love her and are trying to do the right thing by her. If it doesnt work all i can suggest is asking her outright as it does seem she is being a bit unfair towards you.
I wish you the best of luck and feel free to mail me if you would like some more advice.
Take care x x
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reader, V1 +, writes (22 June 2006):
V1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionim gona be 20 soon n she just turned 18 last month. we've been goin out bout 8 months.
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (22 June 2006):
Wow! Shes a tad ungrateful isnt she!! Talk about give you a hard time. Jeeeezzz your going through the mill and I dont know why, she really isnt making this easy... What does she mean by meaningful presents ? I think the problem is shes got some insecurity issues, dont know why, but maybe you need to find that out. I cant see what else you could have done, okay so you got it wrong in the first place, but you have done everything you can to make it up to her and everything you try doesnt seem to be enough... What does she want ? Blood!! Sorry but she is being very unfair. Youve written a poem, you have taken her out, you have got another card! As far as the presents go, its sometimes hard what to buy people, its the thought that counts, and jewellery is a good present... but perhaps she wanted something more personalised like her favourite perfume, something thats personal to her that shows you hav paid attention to her. How long have you guys been going out ? Im guessing its a new relationship possibly ? How old are you two ? It all stems to the fact that she doesnt think that you love her, so shes got herself in a sulky mood and refuses to come out of it. Theres not alot you can do if shes going to slur all your efforts. Okay take her for a romantic picnic (weather permitting) take all the food she likes, and a bottle of champagne with a rose and all that, have a little note or a ballon or something that says I love you on it, and give her the biggest kiss and a cuddle she could ever imagine. Just tell her that you love her so much, and you have tried to make ammends with her and you have tried your hardest and thats shes the most special person in the world to you and that you are so sorry that she feels let down, and your hurting too because she is, and you really dont want her to feel down and you love her with all your heart and you want her to be happy again, tell her shes the only one for you and she has the key to your heart. Now if this dont work, then shes very very selfish, there is not much more you can do, and shes really making you sweat for this, shes very spoilt I would say and is used to getting her own way. But well I can see you have tried really hard and if it doesnt change then its her with the issue after all the effort you have gone to, she really would be heartless to expect more!
take care and good luck. xx
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reader, V1 +, writes (22 June 2006):
V1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni didnt cheat on her. i ruined her birthday. well she told me to get meaningful presents and a card that said "to my girlfriend" i was unable to get the card but i bought her some presents but she said they were not meaningful (jewelery and a teddy). i went to meet her at midnight to give her the presents and she became upset. she was upset that i didnt wirte i love you in the card and thought the presents were not meaningful. since them i have written her poems and a letter and got another card like the one she wanted. when i took her out the night of her birthday she was in a bad mood the entire time and she said that i havent done anything to make her feel better. i took her to resturant in soho and ended up spending alot of money on dinner and then didnt have enough the rest of the nitght. she was upset and began to cry. i bought her a rose and wrote her a note saying i was sorry there and then. she is still upset with me because she feels i ruined her birthday and i want to do something to make her happy again.
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (22 June 2006):
I think it does depend on what you did to upset her and why shes still unhappy, rome wasnt built in a day and it seems you did something really bad for her to still be really upset. Not sure but flowers may bridge a path with a little love note or something like that. Whisk her off for a romantic break. Tell her how much she means to you, but its a bit hard to advise as im not sure what you are trying to make up to her. Is it something like cheating ? In which case you need to make her feel very very special every step of the way, making her meals, running her baths, take her shopping, but her first, buy something for her that you know she wants. Leave little love notes for her to find in all different places, generally go out on a limb for her. But if it is cheating then it will take time before shes happy again. So maybe you can tell us what it is you need to make up to her.. Flowers may be a nice idea but they are not a quick fix, its all about understanding her, making her feel important, showering her with affection and love and just the little things like love notes, but its not something that should just be done the once, its somthing that needs to be done every step of the way and not stop doing it just because you think shes okay, girls love attention and they need to know they are the centre of your world!
Take care x
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