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36-40,
*ilii2010
writes:I know I can never tell anyone this because its too disgusting and bizarre but when I graduated high school, maybe the stress of the transition, I became interested in a homeless man. I know its horrible and disgusting and just wrong, I helped him get on his feet I had brother in law give a job i gave him a place to live. i fell in love with him, we dated for for six years and now he has his own place he does does not return my phone call and is also cheating on me with other women. i have a key to his house and cought them in the act i care about him and helped him in his time of need I still cant shake the fact that I did this. I was old enough to know right from wrong acceptable from not but I didnt care at the time. But now I wonder how I can ever have a normal relationship with a good guy and be open? I could never tell anyone this its too disgusting can any one help me and what should i do should i give him another chance?
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (18 July 2011):
 Judge him for his current charachter, not his previous homelessness.
Yes you were exteremely generous, encouraging and loving to get him going in life again. That life is NOW his.
That is great, but does he OWE you for that help, or should he be loyal to you because he is in a relationship with you?
Since he failed to be faithful, mail him his key and be done with it.
I doubt either one of you respects the other, so what is the point of continuing?
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (18 July 2011):
 what you did was not disgusting. you gave someone a chance, without you who knows where he would have ended up? it is not your fault that he abused your generosity. you can always be proud to know that you helped someone who needed it, there is no shame in that!
however, he has cheated and disrespected you by ignoring you after six years. the charity has to end at this point. don't be a mug. move on. one day someone will be grateful to get a girl with such a kind heart. a worthy partner won't abuse your kindness, they will be repay you with kindness.
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