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writes:I've started dating a girl. We both know that our relationship can't last because we're both going back to university at the end of summer. Because we don't have time to get to know each other, she says she won't have sex with me... But it's been a long time since I last had sex. I'd say about 8 months now! I feel like a starving man with someone holding a steak in front of me saying I can't have any.I like this girl, and I really love spending time with her, but the no-sex thing feels like a bit of a problem. I don't want things to finish pre-maturely, so what can I do? Can you please advise me?
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reader, harshbutfair +, writes (26 July 2009):
 Hate to say this buddy but you're not in a romantic relationship, but a platonic one. She's nothing more than a (posh) friend.
If you want sex you need to be with a lover, not a friend.
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reader, Red Green 0289  +, writes (26 July 2009):
What everyone else said... she's told you the score, honnor it, and enjoy your time together... go home a pull one off... repeat as required...
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (26 July 2009):
 Woah, a whole eight months! That's like, less than a year! C'mon buddy that ain't long at all.
And she has every right to say no. It sounds to me all you're really looking for is a summer fling. There are plenty of girls out there willing to do that, so don't make this girl feel pressured.
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reader, Starlights +, writes (25 July 2009):
 if she doesnt want to have sex with you, you cannot force her into it.
however you can do other things sexually besides sex, (oral etc) the both of you, that way you are both satisfied.
good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2009): The girl does not owe you sex. If you like her and enjoy spending time with her then you will be happy to forgo the sex as long as she wants to.
Something tells me you just want the sex. Take a cold shower, take care of yourself, what ever you have to do, but you won't get far pressuring her for sex or making her feel bad about not giving it to you. She sounds like she is trying to take care of herself emotionally, and that is smart for her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2009): What's more important, her or sex?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2009): I think it is a sensible decision on her part for you two not to have sex. If I knew my relationship was coming at an end after summer I don't think I would want to take it to that level either. The emotional damage would be so much more. You have to respect her decision, and if you can't do that and are still expecting her to change her mind, then I would question whether you should stay together or not before the summer ends.
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