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41-50,
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writes: I have a problem. I have been unemployed for a looong time and living with family. I live in a territory in which is very normal to be unemployed because most of the people go to college but there aren't many jobs. I ocassionaly work part time filling out surveys cold canvassing (which I thhink is extremely humilliating for a professional like me) just to pay off the minimun amount of my credit card monthly bills if I make enough money. This is the only 'job' I have been able to get. But I'm not an employee and sometimes even if I want to work there are no surveys. It's only ocassional.I dumbed my resume today (because I have two college degrees) and I couldn't believe it, I got a job interview. I'm not very happy about it because it's a temporary job and it pays very little and of course half of it would go to pay off my credit card bills and student loans, both of which I won't be able to pay in full for loong years. Also I would lose my government paid health insurance and end up with no health insurance. The other problem is I remember now my ex fiance's best female friend works there. And I can't stand her. We've seen each other like three times. The last time I had recently dumped my emotionally cheating ex and it was (we saw each other) for like five seconds and I believe she didn't recognize me. The funny thing is she works for this health insurance company and I thought she worked at the office close to my house, so JUST TO AVOID HER I drove for like 40 minutes to get to another office (where I may be interviewed tomorrow) and surprise surprise she works there. If she sees me everyday she is going to remember me and inevitably tell my ex and I don't want him to know anything about my life. He has emailed me just to see how I'm doing and I don't want him knowing or deducting I've been unemployed all this time because that's something he criticized me for a lot. What if they fire me? He is going to know also. He is the only person in the world who knows most of my intimate things and I stopped that a long time ago when I dumped him, but i live ashamed he knows so much. I have made lot's of efforts so he wont' come in contact with me. I don't want him seeing I got a stupid job there. If I tell my mother I don't want to go to the job interview she will become mad at me because she doesn't care about things like those. She never went to college and she has never had a professional job What does she know about these kind of problems? My family thinks I'm unemployed because I want to already. If they find out I'm sabotaging this rare opportunity to get a job they will not trust me ever. I have had so many inconveniences with toxic people in the few jobs I 've had in my life that I don't want it to happen again. What to do?
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reader, ArmyMedic  +, writes (3 February 2009):
 I think you need to get over your pride and go for the job, there will be other applicants there too so you may not even get it but the interview practice will do you good.
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