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writes:How do you know if you are completely over your ex boyfriend?My ex boyfriend dumped me, then a day later him and my best friend (of 19 years) were going out together.It broke my heart as I lost two people at once :(It was an awful time for me- now they have split up as she was sleeping with someone else the whole time.. karma eh?well basically,he tried to come back into my life but I was not stupid enough to go back with him!Could this be why i have trust issues.. I have feelings for someone new now but he is my best friend and I am scared to mess things up with us because of my insecurities =( I feel like I am over my ex as I no longer think/ care about him.The guy I think I've fallen for is also a bisexual. He fancies men and women.. he only realised he was bisexual last year, he was gay before that. Should I tell him how I feel. does it matter that he is bi? =S ... (Moderator's notes - I have combined the two of your questions into one)
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (29 July 2008):
 A friend is for life, relationship often ends after a while. If the love is not reciprocate it will probably create awkwardness between the two of you.
I haven't experience the situation myself, but that's what I've seen. I also saw two best friend that started going out together and then got married.
If you have trust issue, i guess that the fact that he's bi would cause a problem trust wise (everyone is an "enemy"). May want to work on that first.
When trust become a source of thinking when in a relationship. It tend to change what would have been a good moment to a bad moment, because it was in your mind.
Trust never really came to my mind even once in a relationship. In my head, if the other person agrees to spend time with me, it means that she wants me to be that special person in her life. If something happens, yes it's going to hurt but it only means that she wants to move on.
Trust can be describe as a "Fear of pain" more than anything else huh? Like "If he cheat on me, I'm going to get hurt. So I need someone who I know won't hurt me, who I can trust."
What hurts-instruct.
Got carried away in my thoughts a bit, sorry. Hope this help you a bit.
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