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*ickC2007
writes:So here's the deal. I'm in love with a girl, and a couple of weeks ago whilst blind drunk, I think she professed her love for me. She doesn't remember this, and has a boyfriend.Here's a more detailed explanation:This girl has been my best friend for over 2 years. I developed a crush on her a couple of months after meeting her, but managed to dispel it, and recently it has come back. There are really 2 moments that triggered this. One was a rave that we went to as a pair about a month ago, and we spent around 12 hours together, just the 2 of us, Bonnie and Clyde on our own little adventure. When I left her side the next morning after we'd had breakfast I felt so sad to be leaving. Then a week or 2 later, we went out for another girl's birthday. She was blind drunk and I was sober. As soon as she saw me she gave me a big smacker on the lips. Then she took me to one side, and asked quite sincerely whether I would marry her, as she thought I could make her happy. Then, after chatting for a bit, she said something like 'I think you're awesome as a friend, but also in another way'. Obviously I stalled her and asked her what she was talking about, but she shied away claiming to be embarrassed, and shortly after she started being sick and crying, like drunk girls do, and so we had to put her in a taxi with no questions answered (I would have taken her home, but her flatmate was refusing to let me). The next morning, she said that she didn't remember any of the night before, and I'm not surprised.I would have confronted her about this by now, but she has a boyfriend, and I just don't know whether to feel bad. Rather than being an abusive boyfriend who doesn't care, or anything dramatic like that, there's just no passion in their relationship. They don't really click, and I think she's pretty bored by him. But the two of us click, and certainly never get bored by each other.So how do I sort this? I have to tell her I love her soon, but when? I've decided it has to be face to face, but should it be in a coffee shop or where? And do I mention that night when she was drunk out of her skull? Any advice at all will be greatly valued.Thanks
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reader, Brunel  +, writes (24 March 2010):
Your views are yours alone and it is pointless trying to think that they are not happy with each other.Forget all this as when we are 'drunk' I fear it means very little and most often if we remember what happened we did not mean it and regret it!Forget her and move on. If she really cares she will seek you out. ther is someone closer who seeks your attention if only you could see it?
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