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writes:I am a 28 year old man with a wife and 3 wonderful kids. I have a great job a very bright future and cant wait to watch my children grow. Here is the kicker.....I am pretty sure I have lost the love for my wife, and here is why: 1. Although I have never cheated on my wife or ever will I always look at other women and think about dating them or having a relationship with them....Even my wife's friends.2. I have the sexual drive of an 18 year old and she has that of a 75 year old. We have sex 1 a month and it is horrible...She does not like sex at all and thinks it is gross. In fact she has told me that if she never had to have sex again then that would be fine (and I belive her). 3. And finally I can honestly say the only reason we are still together is because of my special children and I dont know if she would be able to support herself and the kids on her own. What do you think PLEASE HELP!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2009): How old are your children! Sometimes after having kids, womens sex drive drop tremendously! Don't take foolish advice like telling her you'll get it else where! Sounds like you love her a lot. The last thing you need on top of everything else is, her not trusting you! Talk to her and tell her how serious the situation is. Try. Romancing her like you did in the very beginning! I feel like your a good man and I would hate for you to mess your beautiful family up over something like (sex)! Not that its not important!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice so far....Yes I have tried to get her to do other things other than sex, like oral however she will not even let me go down there, she thinks that is so gross...And there are times that I will start in the morning with coffee in bed and a kiss, send flowers durning the day and at night all she wants to talk about is how she if frustrated that the house is a bit dirty..And the only way I will get elsewhere is when we are not together....I find my self subbing my hobby of Mountain Biking for sex...I look forward to training for a race or meeting up with my team for time trials and I dont think I would do that if I could be captivated in the bedroom.
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reader, Arianz  +, writes (1 January 2009):
 Hey bro,
I think you should talk to her about this problem. If she says that she don’t need any sex then you tell her “if you won’t then I will go for others” (Just show that you are in serious mood)
Her reaction will be your answer. Ok
If she disappointed about this then it means she wants it but maybe become bore of it so better try new ways to make her attract and play.
But if she says “yah you may go” then I think you should take a step to make your life better. Please don’t take my words other wise.
If you want to make your life bright then you need peace in your personal life that’s for sure. So think think and think!!!!!!!!!
best of luck
take care
arianz
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reader, searbear  +, writes (1 January 2009):
 Why don't you experiment a bit, like not actually having sex, but foreplay or lots of cuddling up on the sofa and what-not. Try something new and just show you love her. I don't suggest breaking up with her, i'm sure you'll both work it out eventually.
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