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writes:Hi, I really need advice on this as i am going crazy. Maybe overreacting, maybe not but certainly lost !I have been talking consistently with this guy for almost five months, going out on dates, slept together. He contact me most of the time and he is always making clear he wants to see me.We do not live in the same town and we work for the same company. We always meet because we manage to arrange business trips around. We are supposed to meet next we as i am going there (we organized my trip JUST on this purpose).On monday he told me that he really wanted to see me and we were just joking all day on the chat. Later he said he is leaving the company at the end of the week (i knew he wanted to and he was waiting for the right time). As our relationship is around work I panicked and said "i am really happy for you .. i am going to miss you though" and he said " it means nothing, there will not be any missing by anyone". Then i thought this could scared him off ..Now he is preparing interviews for next week and he didn't contact me from monday ! He is leaving tomorrow and i do not know what all this means. I am supposed to see him next week but i am too stressed thinking he is not going to appear and i will feel like a fool.Should i wait him to contact me ? Should i text him early next week ? Should i email him tomorrow to wish him luck without mention the date ? The date was his idea, we was all excited saying that i am booked for him. He know i am just going for him. Am i overreacting and he is just focus on his things ? I have the feeling he is pulling away but ... Maybe now he is moving on with his life he is not any longer interested .. Thank you for your advice, i do not know what to do !!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2010): Honestly, he is probably just busy getting things in order for interviews and such. Don't read too much into it, we always imagine worse than it actually is. I would suggest that you either speak with him or send him and email and just say that you know he is really busy right now and ask if the date is still on but also let him know that you are cool with it if it's not. I think you have every right to ask, it's not being pushy or needy, but why should you ruin your night if he doesn't show? So ask him....that simple. Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2010): I think you need to relax. He's busy setting up interviews & he's not going to be thinking about much else, but the next job. If he said "they'll be no missing by anybody," I'd take that as a sign he's not going anywhere & that he means you won't have a chance to miss him because he still plans on seeing you. Really though, if you have already slept with him, being able to talk to him openly & honestly should be ok at this point. So texting him shouldn't be an issue. Just say you're looking forward to seeing him next week & keep it short.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2010): A guy you have gone on several dates with slpt together chat mst times is classed as a boyfriend, if you think about whether to txt him or not makes it seem like it was a bit of fun and nothing serious, he might feel that this was all it was and is waiting on you to get in contact drop him a text or email and ask him how his interview went. Try to seem interested in his life. Once your interested if he really does like you he wasn't pullin awai jus didn't know where he stood. What have you got to loose if you want this man go get him don't feel shy, that is something you shouldn't be go with the flow and you'll be fine. Good luck
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