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writes: I have finished with a girl who i have been seeing for 18 months, the relationship was one where i did not commit fully as i was still seeing my seperated wife, as friends nothing else, recently i made the decision to end it with my girlfriend, and be with my wife. In many ways i regret this i still love and care for her very much, i did mess her about and she slept with alot of people in the times i did not see her, she told me its over and is seeing someone new, and shes very happy for the first time. Is she on the rebound? I know theres things that i worried about if we were compatable, but i truely love this girl, i have the chance to make it work with my wife, but deep down i want her back. should i just forget about here however hard it is, i hear shes realy happy with her new bloke, and thats after 3 weeks, should i give her time and space.? I beg her to give me another chance, she said no she did not feel the same anymore but still cared for me, iam 35 shes 19 her new boy is 18. any advice. Reply to this Question
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reader, juddy +, writes (3 November 2006):
juddy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIts funny you should say she wants nothing to do with me, now she wants help with money, why on earth is she asking for money when she says she wants nothing to do with me. Does she see me as a mug, if was not for the fact she had been seeing someone whilst seeing me then maybe i would, but like you say you cant have it both ways.
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reader, juddy +, writes (2 November 2006):
juddy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI totally understand what you are saying i really do, make a choice and stick with it, thats easy to say when you dont understand the back ground of why people act the way they do. In all honesty after reading many sites, its interesting to see that mosst people who ask if they will get there ex back the answer is no most of the time, and you should let them move on. I think the point was and this is not a hope thing should i live in hope, or just get on with what i think is right. I also wondered how my ex is feeling now, sure it makes me feel better if she still thinks about me, does not mean she wants me back, you cant just stop thinking about someone when 2 weeks ago she said she loved you. And of course i wish here all the happiness in the world, shes young and grown up in some ways, and i will always hope shes ok, and yes shes got alot of her life ahead of her. One of my ex texted me to see how I was we have not spoken for 2 years, she said she wished we had worked out as she still loves me so much shes got a new life and thats that, just makes you think should you regrett not going after Moby with the Tarter Sauce.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (2 November 2006):
 Well man, piss or get off the pot! Can't be fence sitting forever. Make up your mind whether to move on or to work on your marriage you owe your wife that much. Good luck.
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reader, juddy +, writes (1 November 2006):
juddy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for the advise, its got nothing to do with me feeling younger, I mad the wrong decision I know all too well about feelings, and when you fall in love you know its right, sure i should have had the balls to sort it out along time ago, i maying the cost of that, this girl loved me so much and me too, i just need to sort my life out, people have said i should leave it be and see what happens, if she wants me back then so be it, other than i have the oppertunity to move abroad if i do this that will be it, my wife as been very understanding in al this, and says she wants us to work things out she knows theres a chance i may leave here in a year 5 years 10 years, but shes willing to give it chance, alot of me says i should if it dont work then, i see it as i have given it my best and one day i will find someone who i do love. Its hard having to work with my ex, i just wish i could have been different, even though she as been other people on and off.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2006): What do you want out of life? Some girl that is half your age that makes you feel young? Let her move on. She is still discovering herself. You need to seperate yourself from her and try to figure out if you want to reconnect with your wife. Be responsible make a decision and stick with it. That is what being a 35 year old is all about.
-J
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