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writes: i need help! i live with my best friend, who has been in a relationship since we met. and i've been in a relationship since we met, as well. but we had an instant attraction to each other the first time we spoke that couldn't be denied. we both knew it. but since we were both taken, we tried to ignore it. and at first, it worked. but as time went on, the attraction got stronger and stronger, to the point where one night a few months back, we wound up sleeping together, which caused a big mess. and since that night, we told each other we were really going to supress our feelings for each other and work on just being friends. but that fell through when she told me a couple weeks ago that she'd fallen in love with me. but she said that she wanted to stay with her boyfriend, which really confused me since i was now single. it wound up really messing me up, and i told her that i thought it was unfair of her to say that to me while still wanting to be with her boyfriend, and that i thought she was being manipulative. she promptly wound up taking it back saying that she didn't really love me, which hurt. but now, her and her boyfriend are on a break, and she's been staying at our house all the time. and we've been spending a lot of time together, taking late-night walks with our dogs together at midnight. or sitting on our porch talking for hours. i really feel as though we'd be perfect together, and the timing seem right for us, since i'm not with my girlfriend anymore, and she's on a break with her boyfriend. but i just don't know how to make a move. what should i do? and does she want me to?
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reader, Toria +, writes (23 September 2006):
 Only one way to find out is to try and talk to her about this again, the break with her boyfriend maybe because you are now single and she is keeping herself open to see what comes of you or it might just be a break to sort herself out so she can give 100% back into the relationship with him.
You've had this talk with her before and it doesn't seem to have spoilt your friendship with her so talking to her again shouldn't either.
I would just wait til your on one of your walks together when you have her full attention and just tell her how you are feeling.
Good luck :o)
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