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writes: Ok, here's the situation. So I havn't talked to my ex for just over two weeks. It's killing me! Seriously though, I'm going to continue to keep this up, but I was just wondering how long it takes to start feeling better. Maybe it's because I'm still harboring hope of getting back together. When I hang out with my friends I couldn't be better, but when I'm all alone at my apartment, I feel so lonely and think about her all the time.Do you guys think there is a chance that we could make up? We were together for a year and a couple months and shared so many good times together. I think that at this point I guess cutting off contact and letting her live her life and make her mistakes is the only chance I have.
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reader, shredordie +, writes (5 June 2006):
shredordie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey guys, long story short, while we were very passionate and close in our year long plus relationship, we ended up spending too much time together, and due to my lack of relationship experience, I often found myself insecure, and acted a bit jealous at times. A few drunken incidents where I said some things I didn't mean were the last few straws. We tried the friends thing for a bit, but obviously wasn't working out because I still loved her, and she had starting seeing somebody (only a week or so after we broke up no less). Looking back at things, we both needed to grow as individuals, and I'm just sorry I didn't see the problems in our relationship earlier. I was blind and in love. Hopefully, this time apart from eachother will help her to see what we had, or it may not, we'll see. Like you said, maybe I'll find somebody better.
Update: Walking home to my apartment, I saw her car outside of the place she's supposed to move into. I guess she's in town, and this makes it very hard not to call her... doing my best.
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reader, Mother hen +, writes (5 June 2006):
Hi, you sound like a nice guy. there are so many good women out there who would love to treat you right. You seem to have good qualities and you are sincere. I dont know why you guys broke up and feeling lonely is awful. please start to think what you want in a girlfriend/partner and spend some of that lonely time on the computer, dating online, doing research, planning your next vacation, working out, visualising yourself happy with someone even better. The mind can be your best friend or worst enemy, use it and dream about what you want and what makes you happy. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2006): Oh honey I'm in exactly the same situation as you and isn't it awful? Non-contact is the best thing, I really believe it, but it is agony at times. What I have done is to set a date in four months time on my calender. I have decided that on this date, if I still want to call my ex, I will do it. I am hoping it is far enough away that by then I won't care so much if I hear he has moved on.... but who knows? At least I keep some dignity that way. Good Luck Babe, i hope it works out for you and all us other heartbroken puppies one way or another....xxx
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reader, Lostandalone  +, writes (4 June 2006):
 You're right it is. You will always have those memories and thats what they are MEMORIES. I don't know what caused the break-up or what went on between you two but it does go away eventually it just takes time. And yes, being at home alone makes it even worse but you will come out of it, but like I said before you need to give more info on the whole thing for a clearer view of what to do.
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