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writes:i am divorced for two years and have a 3 year old son. i am a case of depression and very emotional and a emotionaly weak girl.i want someone in my life who loves me like anything and i keep on falling for married men as i cant bear loneliness. this person is in my office .i was a sad girl when he offered an emotional support and said he wants my happiness.he said he wants to help me and insisted that i should share my problems with him.i fell for him thinking i m going to find a freind in this person.we went out but i denied any kind of physical thing when he tried to hold my hand because i wanted an emotional relationship only.we went out for jst 4 times.and now he is not curious to go out with me.whenever i want to discuss my problems with him he is not interested. he is not that curious to reply my messages. he is unavailable after office hours and weekends and i miss him so much at these times because i feel so lonely and i get depressed.i dont have freinds. i cant go out and talk to anyone. i try hard to make freinds but cant. everyone seems to be busy with their own lives.he dont want to be seen with me.but whenever i try to leave him he tries to persuade me and get me back.last time i tried to leave him but he kept on messaging me but not that desperately but i cudnt stop myself and we went out for a drive and for the first time we held hands.but after that again he is acting distant.he is giving me mixed signals.if he doesnt want me then why doesnt he let me go.and if he wants why doesnt he feel like talking and going out with me..one of the reason may be he is afraid of his wife and has to go home early.he says his wife has no feelings for him but he loves his wife and kids more than anything else in this world.i am so confused and i am having problems in other spheres of my life too.i want to come out of it but not able to do so. one of the reason may be that we are in same office and in touch at day to day basis.moreover it is very hard to bear loneliness.plz help
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2008): The man thought for a moment he would get laid, it didnt happen so now he has tried to get the image out of his mind. He knows he feels guilty for leading you on, you are a single mom, he was going to take advantage of that, he knows your desperate, so he tried some hand holding, then changed his mind, he told you he loves his wife,,, so leave him the HELL ALONE! He is trying to distant himself, he knows already he has crossed the line by holding your hand and taking a drive. This alone is going to get him in hot water....So remove your DESPERATE SELF from the man, and leave his family in PEACE! Find yourself a man who loves you, dont settle for someone who is just looking for a free booty call. Get a man who is going to respect you, and in the end you will have respect for yourself too.....MOVE ON LADY...LEAVE THE MARRIED LOSER ALONE...HE HAS ALREADY CROSSED THE LINEGOOD LUCK!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanx a heap for replying all of u...it s really working for me....itz not that he showed me compassion n i didnt respond....i once tried to share my problem with him but he didnt show any interest and when i asked he said that he wanted me to fight my own battle...isnt it strange....first u r insisting a person to open up n when tht person tries u withdraw...moreover itz me who always wanna go out with him but he s never interested...we ve met jst 4 times in a period of 2 and a half months n duration is one or half an hour...hez alwayz in a hurry to get bak 2 home...i keep on msgng him whole day....sometimes he replies n sometimes not...isnt it strange
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reader, Minelisse  +, writes (18 January 2008):
 When we, in life, start making good decisions for ourselves, things begin to turn right. Why would you go out with a married man? If he is not happy at home, well let him fix that with his wife. She, as a fellow human being and female deserves some respect. Married man will continue to come into your life and out as they please if you continue to let them, because it is easier for them. You become an interesting new game, when the whole "newness" of you is gone, so are they!
It is really difficult to take charge of your life when you are suffering from depression, but it is not impossible. There is therapy available, medications, support groups, even online forums in which you can cheer up and help others. Decide to be happy! Go outside in the mornings, see the sun, take a walk, help someone, get some help. There are a lot of things we can do with our time that will help us, if we decide to sit down and mope, that is our decision! Even if it seems more difficult to just get up and change your life, believe me, it is 100 times more difficult to spend your whole life dreaming of better days and feeling sorry for your circumstances. Hope you are able to move from your circumstances!
Best of lucks!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (18 January 2008):
 He does not want to let you go because he thinks that you are weak and lonely. He is just taking advantage of your loneliness . When he does not get what he wants , he has no interest in your problems. This shows that he has only lust and not real love for you.
Many people live a lonely life and yet are able to cope with it. Keep yourself busy and you won't have the time to think about loneliness.
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