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writes:Can my ex have really got over our split in only 2 months after being together for 5 years?My ex-partner and I were together for almost 5 years before I ended things in February 2007. He then kept texting me and desperately wanted us to try again, so in September last year we got back together.Soon afterwards though the same cracks started to show in the relationship and although I voiced my concerns to him, he thought we'd sort it all out in time.That time went by and deep down neither of us were happy. I don't think I really wanted us to try again and was more 'talked into it' which then meant that I wasn't that committed to it. The relationship had gone wrong for whatever reason and my feelings for him in particular had changed. Needless to say, I ended things completely in March this year.For weeks I didn't hear from him and then he texted me to say that he had accepted things and could we catch up for a drink as friends. I thought then he had finally let go so I agreed to go.Truth of the matter was though that this was his attempt to try and get us back together yet again - that was two months ago. I said it wasn't what I wanted and no matter how hard it was, he had to accept that.He has now texted me to say that he has met someone else - as a friend that may develop into something more. He said he was devastated that we couldn't try again but my thoughts were if he was that devastated, how can he have moved on in such a short time? Although we are not an item I do still care about him and would have thought he would have come up for air and spent time with his kids before desperately trying to find someone else. I have said I wish him well because to me this must totally be on the rebound. Has anyone been through the same?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2008): Men like to fix things. If his heart is broken and he wants to fix it he has to take action in that direction. So how does one fix a broken heart? Mend it with a new person that makes you forget. Simple solution.
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (11 August 2008):
 I do beleive that if you meet the right person even after a short while, that enables you to move on quickly. How do you know that he's on the rebound anyway? After all you can only try so hard before you end up giving up.
You sound a little disapointed that he is no longer chasing you, and thats natural. But put yourself in his shoes, men often just need a woman to take care of them. So if she's fitted the bill, thats why he has given up on you. At least he will leave you alone now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2008): Dear Poster, from the information you supllied, it sounds as if after numerous attempts to reconcile your husband finally accepted that it is over and have moved on.
I do hope he will stay in touch with his children; maybe you should just give him a little time to settle down and find himself.
Best wishes and lots of SMILES
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (11 August 2008):
When I split with my my ex after a long drawn out torturous end, I felt awful for hurting him. But any attempts to previously fix things had generally ended up with him emotionally doing me down till I cried and agreed to try again.
After a week of being split up he came and told me that it felt like a weight had been lifted off his shoulders and he had been fighting and fighting to keep us but once it had gone he realised he was actually much happier now we'd split up.
What I'm saying is that if he's met a great girl and it cold lead to something then great, he's accepted it and moved on. It's up to him whether he stays with his kids or not. And why do you assume he's "desperately" trying to find someone new? He's met a girl so what?
Why are you so bothered about what he does?
I know as women we secretly want our ex's to go into a monk like state where they mourn our passing but he's over you and moved on. You should go out and have fun and if you meet someone then do the same.
Good Luck!! xx
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