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writes:I just learned about BDSM this week. My questions are as follows:Is there alot of infidelity involved. Do men really wear chastity belts or this just an expression? Is there alot of bisexuality with this? What types of people are into this? Can you be fully in love and be 100 percent safe participating in this? I have a high sex drive and enjoy pleasing a man immensely, but I am also hyper sensitive and conservative. Please help. thanksThank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2010): ThankS for being so helpful to a stranger I am meeting too many men that r only interested in sex
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you Satin Desire, you write very well. If this guy really wanted to get to know me, he would have called me immeidately after he scared me away. I am defintely as you would call it, vanilla but I am a very sexual women. He obviously was just saying the things he knew I wanted to hear and I ate it up. I hope to find someone , I really do..
Best of luck to you and your daughter, babies are the best!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2010): I feel like have lived in another, planet as i knew none of this Satin Desire. I would think a chastity belt would be very uncomfortable for a man. How would he go to the bathrooom? Do you find this sexual orientation tied into a specific religion, it almost sounds like it has religous tones to it.
Anyway, the guy did scare me off and I told him so. He has not emailed me again. Thanks for sharing
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reader, Honest Answer +, writes (15 January 2010):
 SatinDesire great post! No matter what you do behind closed doors is anybody's business but your own. Just be safe, make sure the play is consensual, and best of all, enjoy. You only live once~
Good Luck!
Jeff
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2010): not really. there can be but most people stay with one partner or are poly. if you go for more than one person make sure everybody knows and accepts
some men wear them, some can't stand them. same for girls.
no. yes there is bisexuality but you can't really say there's more than what's considered normal sexuality.
all sorts. i'm a student librarian. one of my friends is in a band and he's a switch in his. some are in business. some are parents. it's got nothing to do with what type of people. it's about the individual and what is needed.
yes you can be fully in love and into bdsm. being safe is a different question in itself. you have to work to be safe that's why there are rules to the lifestyle and so many expectations about things like safe words and limits.
bdsm isn't all about sex btw. a lot of people have sex in bdsm but that's not what it's all about.
good luck
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (15 January 2010):
There is a film called the Secretary, starring Maggie Gylenhall. That will help you understand a little bit.
As for all your questions... there is no right or wrong answer to any of them.
It's basically just a big game. So some people will just pretty much be a normal couple but talk about it to get each other turned on, making lots of empty "threats" but keeping it all pretty tame. Some people will send their girl / man off to cheat / be bi sexual / wear crazy things.
As for the types who are into it.... Everyone you can think of!! I know it tends to be very powerful men that tend to go to dominatrixes. People like High Court Judges and MPs are the stereotypes to go there as they have to be in control all day and it is a turn on for them to give that up.
My suggestion to you is just to give it a go. See if it does it for your hypersensitive conservative mind. If it freaks you out then don't do it and find someone normal.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (15 January 2010):
There's a great young lady on this site who knows all about it, called SatinDesire. She's the best person to ask about it all.
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