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*needtoloveme
writes:Ive been with my childs father for 13yrs on and off,our child is 7yrs old. After having our child I got on the depo provera birth control shot,that has now made me infertile(unable to have anymore children)as well given me ovarian cysts.I hve been going back and forth to the doctor in the process of getting fixed in a sense. 2days ago he told me that he got someone pregnant! You can only imagine the anxiety and pain that consumed my body when he spoke those words. he said that it happened around a time that we had gotten into a really bad argument,and supposedly the condom slipped. This is not the first time that this woman has appeared in my life,she was caught w/a prior boyfriend during me and one of my current boyfriends breakups,now she's bk! I am devestated,lifeless,in agony and disgusted....He has asked me to try and make it work...he agreed to go to counseling and get help...the thing is i dnt think i can,i dont think i can ever trust him again. I havent ate in days and all i want to do is drink and sleep.....I thought he was the love of my life,and im not the type to think once a cheater always a cheater.....I've been praying and praying but all I can do is cry,i dont think I will ever be able to trust him with my heart again.....Not only has he hurt me severely his 7yr old son is mildly disgusted by him as well! I threw his clothes and all his belongings out on the porch and lawn and changed my locks! I love him so much should i try to see this through or keep him out for good! Somebody help!!!! ~Signed I need to Love myself~
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reader, ineedtoloveme +, writes (6 December 2010):
ineedtoloveme is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you QuietandCrazy! i really appreciate your response........I actually have given him a chance and we are actually going thru couples therapy and i am seeing a therapist on my own. It did start to put a wedge btwn me and my child and i couldnt stand to see him sad b/c i am..So i took initiative and we are doing so far so good! I have faith so if were meant to work it out,it will happen with the power of love thru GOD and the professional help that we have seeked! I really appreciate the few heartfelt responses that I have rcvd! Your guys are great and awesome advice givers! God bless you all
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reader, QuietNCrazy +, writes (26 November 2010):
you have to understand people do things just because their mad and they dont bother to think about it first.you should give him another try at least for your child i can tell you still love him very much.drinking is only making thing worse you may think its a way to escape for you pain but your just hidding from it which makes you more upset about not dealing with your pain, at the same time you putting distacnce betweenyou a your child's realitionship trust me i've been the child in that situitation i think you should really take my advice :)Good luck
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reader, QuietNCrazy +, writes (26 November 2010):
you have to understand people do things just because their mad and they dont bother to think about it first.you should give him another try at least for your child i can tell you still love him very much.drinking is only making thing worse you may think its a way to escape for you pain but your just hidding from it which makes you more upset about not dealing with your pain, at the same time you putting distacnce betweenyou a your child's realitionship trust me i've been the child in that situitation i think you should really take my advice :)Good luck
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reader, ineedtoloveme +, writes (26 November 2010):
ineedtoloveme is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI really appreciate your response! It seems heartfelt and as if you have been through a few things yourself.......I have let him go,and have kept my locks changed...He calls everyday,has put teddy bears and flowers and even a ring with a note attached Will I Marry Him? Wtf he rang the doorbell then ran! Honestly I am not going to lie,it is hard as hell to try and get over this man I have dedicated 13yrs of my life to.....but I know w/the help of God and my best friend this too shall pass and I will overcome my pain......But right now I am still in pain and still oh so very confused and lost.......I dont think I can trust another Man!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2010): Try not to sweat over this guy too much; he sounds like a complete loser. He's got to know how much pain it would cause you to be with another woman, the fact that he does it anyway shows that he doesn't care about you. You do not deserve an easy, weak idiot like him! Dump him! Trust me, I've been through heartaches where you feel like you can't live without someone, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Honestly, you will be better off cutting out all the stress he is causing you in your life. Wake up and smell the roses!
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