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writes:I was having trouble, switching to dad's house to mom's house. I didn't know how to get on my own. I was living at mom's place and things went bad.. I was deciding on if I should live with dad again or stay with mom. I met a guy and we connected. Instantly he saw the things that were driving me insane. He told me to move in with him. Our relationship was GREAT. I had a hard time finding a job, but I finally found one, with the help of my best friend. With in the time of looking for a job, things in relationship started to get lazier and lazier. No more "Good night baby I love you." every night before closing our eyes. No more sex. 5 months later, I'm still working, but hours at work has been dropped.. Horribly. Looking to work at H.E.B. It's a nice friendly place.. and I love cashiering. Still no sex... rarely any "I love you, Goodnight". Starting to feel like a roommate. I stupidly joined his bank account and put my checks going to his bank. He knows I hate it when he tickles me. It's not a funny feeling I get. Yes, I laugh, but it makes me sick to my stomach. He still does it trying to flirt with me. I'm not happy anymore, He doesn't pay things on time, bills are always late and charged with late fees. We have no food in the ice box, but he brings beer home. He doesn't drink to much, but still... I'd rather us eat a chicken or hamburger helper or something instead. I really could go on a while of things that is bothering me. I know im not happy. Plain and simple is that. I don't know how to get out tho. My checks are going into his bank account. If I leave, I would be totally screwing him. Not in a sexual way either. He was suppose to buy me a puppy, instead he bought me a cell phone. Now if I leave.. He'd have to pay Rent + Electricity + Cell phone bill *100 dollars a month for two years*, he'd have to pay the internet cuz he's going to school. He'd have to pay his school bill. There's so much that would be bad for him if I left. He's a great guy yes, but he acts like a boy. I thought my mom was messy... My boyfriend doesn't flush toilets, doesn't do dishes, doesn't pick up his own cat's shyt. Doesn't clean up after our new puppy. Yes he does walk the dog and go to work, but that's about it. I feel like his mother/roommate. I don't want to go back to dad's house. he has anger problems. I'm a very sensitive girl. Mom was put in nursing home because of cancer. I looked up roommates.com and saw add.. Someone on my side of town asking for 375. It sounds so good, but I dont know how to get 375 for the first rent. No idea how to get the room. I just feel hopeless. Like nothing i can do will be alright. Don't know where else to go, I thought about going and staying at a homeless shelter, but im scared. I get scared really easily. I thought about living in my dad's jeep for a month. But then what about showering? Maybe I can park next to a truck stop. They have showers there. I think that's the best thing for me to do. I could care less about my furnisher. Altho, I do need to take that TV we bought under my name.. Not because im greedy, but because im still paying on it.I don't understand how people do it.
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reader, CrissyX +, writes (3 December 2009):
CrissyX is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the two answers. were both good answers. I went to the goverment to see about getting me some food stamps... that would help me out on food wise. I told my boyfriend in order to get more food stamps .. i'd have to take my name off his account.. That was just an excuse to take my name off. He agreed. I been hiding money... mmm not the honest thing to do, but it's not really stealing because it's money i earned at work.. so I don't feel completely bad. I thought about the second answer... about he would be screwing himself not me doing it to him.. i thought awhile on that.. and my friend on line actually said the same thing. I'm gonna be strong.. I can do this! Thanks for the words of encouragements.. really does help. *hugs*
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2009): Lets sort this all out. Im going to give you alittle homework okFirstly Money: what sort of bank accounts do you have?Open one just under your name, for putting in your pay and open a second one that will earn interest. Look around for the best interest rate available. Just wander into each bank and ask them about it DONT SIGN UP, you need to find out about it all first so you get the best deal. If your bf asks just say you want better value. Theres your 375 but in the long term have about 2000 in there as emergency moneyOK so now we have your cash back under control, start saving, $10 - $20 per fortnight will be fine, it all adds up. This is only the first step but its a good step, Just get this right for now, I know you arnt feeling appreciated but you dont have a better option for now.Does he know why you hate being tickled? If not tell him again, and if he still does it then throw up on him. That should sort that out. I think you need to have a sit down talk with him about whats going on, dont nag or yell at him. talk about what you would like and be prepared to compromise alittle.Im afraid your stuck there for atleast alittle while, you need the time to get your life in order. I wish you all the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2009): "He'd have to pay Rent + Electricity + Cell phone bill *100 dollars a month for two years*, he'd have to pay the internet cuz he's going to school. He'd have to pay his school bill. There's so much that would be bad for him if I left."You wouldn't be screwing him, he'd be screwing himself. Stop feeling responsible for him, you're not his mother. So get out. Get your money into your own account for now. He bought the phone. His problem, not yours. Sell the TV so you dont have to pay more on it. Sell the furniture too. Then save up that money in YOUR bank account and use it to pay the rent you need for a new place. Also look into getting another job, two jobs if thats what it takes. And ask for help from social institutions? I don't know how it works in your country, but here where I live if you don't have enough money to get by you can get help from the goverment.
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