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writes:I know this sounds completely insecure but... the last few women my BF dated, including his exwife were professionally and finacially set. They all have very nices homes, money, they took vacations with him but I don't. I rent, have zip in the bank, can't even afford to take a vacation so I'm wondering what the attraction is for him. Not that he rubs it in but being insecure, I wonder if he was just lonely when we met and I'm "okay for now".
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2007): Money and stuff are not everything. I used to be a single mum with zip all in the bank and my bloke has two exs with dosh and looks, does it bother me, no way. He is with me cos he love me for me and you should feel the same way. Don't put a price tag on a relationship. Forget about his exs. You will get on your feet one day and have holidays together too. Are you working? If yes then try and save. If not, then get a job! Stop beating yourself up!
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (22 March 2007):
 Hey there, Well lets see they all had all of this and what happend.... they all broke up! Doesnt mean he was happy does it!
Maybe he does just love you for you! Isnt that what we all want ?
Dont go comparing yourself to the ex's or you will end up overshadowing that on to your relationship and thats what will make it start to wither.
There was an attraction when you met, there must have been something, hes been there ticked the box on all the others and they all ended up the same way, didnt work.
Give him the benifit of the doubt, and a little respect, it doesnt mean hes bored lonely and you will do, it could go a lot deeper than that, but the picture you are seeing is that oh he couldnt possibly really want me, not when I have nothign to give! Im sure you have a whole lot more love to give than anything materalistic, give yourself and him some credit.
Take it easy, stop stressing and feeling inadequate, you could end up ruining something so perfect, a man that wants you for you and your enough for him.
Take care x x
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