I have no more tears and I'm heartbroken! How long should I wait for him to call? .

A female age , *ueeny63 writes:

Hi after 2 weeks I have not called my ex boyfriend. I have good days and then I have bad days. I'll briefly explain what happened. I dated my guy for 3 years, there have been good times and there have been bad times. But at the end of the day, we were fine. We are in our forties, have been divorced, I have a little girl, and he has a 23 yr old from his ex wife, and a 3 yr old from a former girlfriend. When I met him it was on line, we got along so well. He had gone through a bad divorce, and was never alone until the divorce. The exwife cheatd on him, he is rigid in his ways, because he is a correction officer, but he put in many hours of work to have his wife living a comfortable life, he loved being married. So I realized he had trust issues, same thing happened to his exgirlfriend, she was a litttle loose, had 3 boys fro diff dads now him he is the only one paying child support. The child is biracial (he thought I was going to be upset..now way), which I don't know why I am saying this but he doesn't speak of him. Plus the mother loves to start fights and is loud, he when he is upset he withdraws, he lives in PA and works in NJ where he grew up and his family lives and so do I. The ups were we spoke to each other day and night, we finished each others sentences it was all so beautiful, I gave him unconditional love. He is stoic and stubborn at times, but has a kind heart. WHen he is upset he goes up to his house and answers no ones calls, believe me it has happened to me quite a few times, he knows how it upsets me. When I am mad I speak up, he shuts down. Eventually he cheated on me with the baby's mom 2 yrs ago, and she said she was pregnant, he was like a zombie, he had to tell me, he said he did not know how because I meant so much to him (right) we worked through it, but the trust issues went out the window. It hurt me like hell, that I trusted him and gave him my love and he used it. We worked at it but he never wanted to bring the topic up. We had a few ups and downs, then I became preg last year, but I lost it, I think he felt relieve and it still hurts. He wasn't there for me. He says he loves me but his actions don't show it. He is not the hugging cuddling type but I felt at ease and protected by him. He is a workaholic and he works the first and sometime the second shift because of the OT and he has bills. I learned to live with it. All was going fine until March 09, his father was ill for a long time, then on March 23 his brother died unexpectedly and on March 26 his father passed away. My guy did not cry he withdrew, I know he was hurting, I was there for him and the family. Before the wake, his sister's ex boyfriend was at dinner, my guy are not on speaking terms with this man. The guy left gave evryone a kiss and said goodnite, my guy cursed me out said I disrespected him, said horrible things to me, I'm shocked, I cursed him out no one speaks to me that way I know he may be grieving, but I apologized til today no call from him, I left messages, goes into voicemail. He hates me, but I did nothing, I miss him and want an apology, He loved me he says what happened. I'm tempted to call but I think its up to him also, his ego is very big. I miss him daily, we spoke from am to pm..I made sure he ate and he arrived safely and prayed for him he said no one had ever done that for him. how and why did he change in one day. He is stubborn, so I know there will be no call....I pray everyday..I have no more tears..should I call??? todays been a month since our breakup!!! SOme open my eyes!!! Thanking u in advance!

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