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writes:ok well im 13, atheist, and i have grown up closer to girls than guys, so i know alot more about jr. high/ early highschool feelings and though processes than most other guys (yes i grew up with a single mother) i have one friend that is a girl that all of my other friends call ''my clone'' i know anthother friend that is a girl that is blond and very smart i have never had a gf i dont think i have the courage to ask any one out... can some one help me!!!! should i ask one of them out, and if yes, which one!!!!! remember i am 13 plz help!! i need advice i really really realy like them both!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2010): You're right, presure from the people around you can be really tough to deal with! These people probably pick on you because they are immature, and maybe jealous that you have lots of female friends. That is their problem.
But I do understand the pressure. As for your two friends, well you say one of them is just like you, and people call her your "clone". The other girl, you are "crazy about". So although you are equally close to both of them, could it be that you feel more into the girl you are crazy about? Maybe you like her as more than just a good friend?
First dates...well, I think casual is good! It doesn't matter that there may not be anywhere nice to go, as long as you are with good company! Maybe you could do something you both enjoy together, a particular hobby or activity. Or ask her what she'd like to do, she may have some ideas if she accepts. It might feel awkward at first, but if it all goes well you'll relax more and it will become easier.
I guess I can't fully relate to how it feels for you though, as my experience at school was very different. It was horrible actually! So I may not be the best person to offer advice on this! But I do hope something has helped, and whatever you decide to do I hope it goes well!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok well most of these answers have been helpful and i understand the point but most of you are speaking in the point of older veiw, most older responces, please just think back to your first year high school, just pretend that 99% of your friends are girls other guys envey you and pick on you( beside the point) most of these people are red necks(alsobeside the point)but out of all of your friends two in perticular seem to be closer to you, but evenly close. one acts just like you and the other, you r just crazy for but again they are very close to you evenly, who would you ask out? also i agree with the first comment i am afraid to get turned down plus its not like im goig to go some where nice just like do some thing simple because lol first date!!!if you have any sugestions for first date i would appreciate them =) thx =P also first answer im am 13 going onto 14 my b-day is on the 22nd
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (3 February 2010):
 Ask one of them to the next high school basketball game. Oh....and shut up, q.
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reader, ticki  +, writes (3 February 2010):
 ur 13 and your worrying about that??
I'M 14 and iv havent had a bf let alone been out on a date!
i think you
a) calm down first
b) think bout which girl you like more and if you feel you would like to do something with her on her own
c) ask her out (or not)
it is scary and even though iv never asked someone out, i know
but it doesnt have to b a biiiiggg, huuuge event
it could just be...well..i dno...getting a coffee together
as simple as that
and if u feel that she was kk with it and enjoyed her and if U enjoyed it, u can ask her out again, maybe something bigger this time.
alot of people r scared of asking others out in fear of being turned down. i am scared of that too.
but most of the time it isnt even half as bad as u thought it wud b
normaly it turns out completely different to what u thought it wud b
hope this helps
gd luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2010): Do you really like one girl in particular, or do you feel that you should have a girlfriend, and so have put pressure on yourself to ask one of them out? You know, I didn't have a boyfriend until I was 17. I felt the same as you, that it would never happen, and that I would never have the courage. But it did happen. I think it is especially hard when you are younger, but as you get older you develop more confidence, and it gets easier.
So please don't worry about the fact you have not had a girlfriend yet! There is loads of time for that to happen! As for the two girls, why not just concentrate on being a good friend to both of them for now, and see what happens? You might grow closer to one, and things might develop on their own. At the very least, you will gain more confidence. Try not to put so much pressure on yourself though. Really, there is no rush, and although the thought of having a girlfriend must seem wonderful, it will happen someday! Maybe soon, maybe not yet. But don't worry too much! Good luck! x
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reader, veronika  +, writes (3 February 2010):
 Which one do you have stronger feelings for?
Which one do you talk to the most?
Which one do you get along with more?
Does either of them seem to like you more than a friend?
No one here can make a decision for you without knowing more details, so you're going to have to weigh up who you want more.
However, I know that it can seem very daunting for a young teenager to ask someone out - been there, done that myself.
So to be honest, if I were you I wouldn't rush into anything, and see if one of them likes you.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (3 February 2010):
You're 13, so slow down. There's no rush. If you like both, then you don't fancy either of them enough to make them a girlfriend. Slow down, take your time and then when you meet a girl you really like you'll know to ask her out.
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