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writes:I am middle aged and recently returned from a cruiseI met a man and spent a lot fo time with him as friends. He did put innuendoes about having sex and I did want to but I have never been one for casual sex and when we went on the landing he was trying to suggest it and I didnt respond to his talk. What I wouild have prefered was a drink together in quiet then go from there. There was a man there who we didnt really know with his wife and he asked him in front of me "did you have a good night" -also one or two tohers were watching moves. This is not my style.I prefer privacy and a bit of a set scene before. I now regret not sleeping with him as I really liked him-but did I do the right thing by not? Would he have liked me more if I had?jenny Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2008): you do not need to do anything to "make" a guy like you. do not change what you feel is right. if he's just trying to get some booty, he's not going to care about getting to know you or like you or making you feel comfortable. he doesn't sound like a nice fella. i would be proud knowing i didn't sleep with him if i were you. stick to your feelings and morals. there are too many diseases and scumbags around to just be casual with your body and mind. and remember... don't ever take anything personal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2008): I agree with the previous postings; you did the right thing: if this will help at all; if you did do it and never heard from him again, imagine how you would have been feeling now; at least he got the message and should you here from him again; well then you know he is interested in more then just casual sex; then go and get to know him better!
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2008): okayy. i honestly think what you did was perfectly right. cause if it was me i wouldnt have done it either. sex is ment to be talked about privatly not with other people around. cause thats the couples buisness. so you should feel no regret from it.
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reader, Amsieee(: +, writes (22 June 2008):
 a guy who would only like you for sex whether you like him or not is wrong, im sure many men would be just satisfied with your company and i personally belive you did the right thing, if you did have sex with him it wouldnt be casual for you, but it would have been for him making it more complex. dont live in the past move on from this guy or keep in contact and take it slow. i think you were right in what you did.x :)
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