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writes:BACKGROUND:I have been with my BF for over a year now. We don't live together yet, but we see each other at least 3 times a week. Every time we see each other, I give him at least 1 blow-job, some times even 2. A quadruple amputee could count how many times he has gone down on me, ZERO. I keep a clean shop, shaved and washed. I have recently discovered that I am allergic to semen, and still give him oral. I just want to receive it back. We aren't having sex yet (I am a virgin), and him fingering me is just getting boring. I used to enjoy giving him oral, but not getting it back is making me a bit hateful. He has done it to his last girlfriend, and claims to be great at it, so I know he doesn't hate it. He says he wants to wait for the right time, it has been over a year!I usually give him the blow-job after he fingers me, and I have done it with my butt towards his face without my panties on, to try to be coy and hint, but he just rubs my but instead. QUESTION:So how do I convince him that I need pleasing in return without the ultimatum of witholding oral from him or forcing him? I love him, and would hate to lose him over something so petty, but I have needs too, and they are not being met! Please help me. And thank you in advance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2013): First off I don't understand why any straight guy would ever pass up on eating pussy. With that being said, maybe he doesn't because you are shaved. I know all guys are different but I prefer a women with pubic hair. I hate eating bald pussy - reminds me of a little girl. Women have hair - it's normal. Doesn't have to be a full bush but at least some. My wife used to shave completly but after I begged her to let it grow she did and she loves it now. Just my opinion.
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reader, Got Issues  +, writes (17 March 2013):
 I have been in a similar situation. My ex, who was a selfish person in many ways, went down on me the first couple of times (perhaps to make me think he was good in bed?) and then just stopped, while still expecting, or rather, demanding blowjobs. After a while I realised that he wasn't going to start again so I plucked up the courage during sex and asked him to go down on me. He told me that he couldn't, because he'd had an operation on his mouth and needed a couple of months to heal. I believed him and left it for a few months before I asked him again. This time he told me he had just been to the dentist and therefore he couldn't. I got angry and he got angry with me for being unreasonable. Yet 2 minutes later he was asking me for a blowjob. After that, he did go down on me many times, but would usually start by asking me why I wanted him to lick me and if I was some kind of lesbian. The guy was totally abusive and I'm not saying your situation is the same at all, but the selfishness is there. Why should you do something for him that he won't do for you? Waiting for the right time is complete BS, don't believe a word of it. You do need to give him an ultimatum, and it's not something petty. He is putting his own needs above yours and not doing everything he can to pleasure you. He needs to grow up.
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reader, eddie85 +, writes (17 March 2013):
 I agree with the other repliers here. You definitely need to state that you aren't being satisfied. And it sounds like you have tried being fairly subtle about it.
Have you tried verbally telling him. For instance, you can say "I love it when you ..." or "I am almost there, do ..." or something along those lines. That way it is painfully obvious to him how to satisfy you. He may also be inexperienced about how to perform oral sex on a woman and hence his reluctance.
Some guys can be fairly clueless or lazy about sex and knowing how to please their partner. I suggest you be more vocal about your desires and needs.
Eddie
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reader, N91 +, writes (17 March 2013):
 A crazy thing called communication! Tell him exactly what you've just told us. He's being selfish in bed and you don't like it, so tell him.As far as he's concerned, everything is going fine, when it's not.
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