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writes: Hi guys!Got a bit of a problem here. I'm seventeen, and I've fallen for my 24 year old friend. Wait, don't panic.We've been good friends for quite a while and I'm pretty sure the feeling is mutual. He's..just incredible. An amazing friend that I'm so lucky to have met. My friends adore him, and even my mom (who was a bit shaky at first) has warmed.I say don't panic because although I'm legal in my state, I wasn't really planning on telling him my feelings until I'm 18. Just trying to be socially responsible I guess.But my main question is, would telling him how I feel at 18 (when he's 25) be a bad idea? Should I wait until I'm 19 and he's 26, till I'm 20 when he's 27? Or never? Is the age gap too big? I know a lot of people think "18-25" or "19-26" sounds awful because one person is still a "teen", so 20-27 seems more acceptable.I really care about him and feel like he's a great catch, I don't want to miss out on a chance. But at the same time I'm painfully aware that right now dating is inappropriate and I should wait until I'm older. I'm just so afraid I'm going to lose my opportunity if I end up waiting until I'm 20.I know we're going to remain close friends no matter what happens. I hope to keep this friendship alive for as long as possible. But if there is ever a chance that it could develop into more, I'd do it in a heartbeat.Any words of wisdom? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2006): I personlly believe you should wait until he asks you, I'm not saying you ought to sit back and do nothing, do some moves on him, get his interest, make him kind of guess if you do like him however dont make it obviouse ( what if he doesnt like you, your friendship could turn out a bit awkward, at least for some time, you never know) I dont think you ought to wait at all till your 20!!! Dangling like that is no good, you could miss other great guys if he really isnt the one, waisted years, then again they might not be.
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reader, Toria +, writes (22 September 2006):
 No matter how old you are when you tell him how you feel the age gap will still be the same and I don't see 7 years as a problem, I can see your concerns but like you said your mum and friends all like him and seems he is great towards you.
Just follow your heart 7 years is really nothing to worry about you are of a legal age so no problem there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2006): I've just turned 27 and with a girl who has just turned 18, it's awesome, why such a problem, it's down to the individuals. Personally girls just didn't like me when i was 18 so I'm not going to not like a girl this age when i finally get a chance. It's really great and we get on very very well. My parents had an age gap of 20 years, it really doesn't matter and matters less as you get older. Don't worry, and go for it.
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reader, eeyore_babyz +, writes (22 September 2006):
 Omg this is soo not a problem i am to 17 i have been with my fiancee for a year and half he is 24 and everythings been great if you both feel that it is right then go for it nobody can tell you how to live your life other than yourself follow your heart and let the rest follow
please let us know how it goes whatever
xx eeyore_babyz xx
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reader, jack23 +, writes (22 September 2006):
 Hi Ya!
Sounds like you really want to be with this guy, I can say from personal experience its a good idea, as im in pretty much the same boat!!
Im 23 almost 24, and I was falling for a friend who is 17, we were really close friends and got on so well. I was abit hesitant to admit any feels cause I didnt wana ruin what we had, but I explained how I felt and to my suprise she confessed to being in love with me!! We have been together now for several months and are very happy! best move I ever made.
Dont let the age gap worry you, its just a number and you shouldnt waste the chance of being happy, I know I have no regrets!!
Good luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2006): A couple of my friends (17 - 18 year olds) are going out with 24/25 year olds! they get on great and have really good relationships... go for it!! x
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