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writes:hi everyoneRight, now this is going to sound mad but I have no one else i can ask so im coming here to my virtual friends.My bf and i are getting on great. We have been together a few months now although we were 'friendly' for a while before that. He has gone away for a while and I miss him loads ( i have posted here before so you may reconise this part)My problem is that if his phone is turned off for prolonged periods of time or he doesn't answer a text I worry. I suffer very high anxeity problems.This worry is deff not to do with me thinking that he is cheating as i have questioned myself on this and feel this is totally not the case. I feel as though my sence of panic is taking over my body and I have no control. I can feel my family, who im leaning on a lot, getting very stressed with me. This is mostly through frustration as they want to help me but dont know how. I suffer being jittery, having trouble breathing, feel like im going mad and just loosing total control. He is the sweetest, kindest guy and I dont wanna loose him. These feelings are just so not what I expeded from being 'loved up' tho. I expected it to be happy ( i am happy when im with him, this only happens when we are appartAny advice would be greatly recieved as I just want my life back and to be the old meThanks to everyone who replies and if your also posting i truely hope everyhing works out for you
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reader, Toria +, writes (22 September 2006):
 I would go see your doctor and explain this to him and he may refer you to someone that can help, as you can't carry on like this and in most situations these may only get worse and more uncontrollable, your problem may not even be anything to do with your boyfriend may just be that this situation brings on a panic attack that maybe related to something completely different and until you see someone and get to the bottom of the cause you can't start dealing with it.
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reader, shania +, writes (21 September 2006):
 What you are suffering from is not that unusual as panic attacks are caused by many phobias and fears that simply just get out of hand.You say that you are not worried about him cheating on you,so do you panic because if he isn't answering his phone or doesn't txt you,that he might be in a accident? or something bad as happened to him? What you are having is irrational thinking which will feed your anxiety that will give you the panic attacks so therefore you have created a vicious circle.The panic attacks that you are having are horrible and you feel like you are going to pass out but there is help out there.I would go to your doctors and say what you are feeling and he should refer you for therapy treatment with a psychologist....your doctor might prescribe tablets for anxiety and panic attacks while your having treatment.You dont need to suffer alone.Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2006): Hi there, unfortunately I cannot offer any advice but I wanted to let you know you are not alone in the way you are feeling and you are certainly not going mad. I'm going through the exact same situation except my love is for my friend (who I wished was my bf). I get the exact same feelings of anxiety, trouble breathing, shakes throughout my body, wanting to be sick, crying etc and this all happens when my friend does not reply to texts or has his phone switched off im always convinced I have done something wrong and like you when im with him im fine. I have even been to the doctors had blood tests etc because I was convinced I was sinking into a depression. My biggest problem is that my friend has picked up on this and has backed away from me. All I can really say is if your friends want to help by taking you out, talking etc to take your mind off it let them, without my friends I would not know how to deal with this. All that has helped me is to try and focus on something else in my life that makes me happy. It does help take the edge off it. Good Luck Hun u will get through this xx
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