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writes:Hi, I have a very sensitive issue for me to discuss with you.I have had an accident long ago that has scarred my face, I still have good features, but it's not the same. Because of this, I cannot get the guys I want and deserve. And to be honest, I don't know if this is because of my looks, or how I tend to shy away from those I feel attracted to because I automatically believe if they're that great, they wouldn't be into me anyway. At the same time, I am not willing to settle for less with anybody, so if I dont like somebody's type, I won't go for it just because I think can't get better.I have a great personality, I AM a very fun person, smart enough i think, and apart from the reason i mentioned, I can't think of anything else that would make a guy not want to be with me.However, I wonder if these good things I say about myself have any value when it comes to the rel dating world. Yeah, yeah, I know the "it only matters whats in the inside" speech, but sometimes I think that I should just be more humble and instead of trying to get something i think i cant have, go for what I can.If it does come to this though, I guess I might as well be a nun, because I cant settle for anything less than what I think I deserve.What I'm trying to say is; if I am so unwilling to compromise with people I believe to be incompatible to me, or whom seem like the best but I'm just not that attracted to, then how can I even shudder the hope that there is somebody out there who deserves me and will me able to compromise with my looks.?Any advice would be appreciated, thank you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2010): You need to show that you have confidence and high self esteem... by showing people that you have accepted the way you are they will be more willing to accept you as well.
Dont sell yourself short, you are a better person for wanting more for yourself, and remember there will be someone out there who will love you for who you are not what you look like.
There is a young guy in my village who was burnt horribly in an accident - he recently met and married the love of his life.... and just to watch the two of them together brings tears to my eyes... all you can see on her face is true love...
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reader, Christian +, writes (29 January 2010):
I belive in my heart every thing happens for a resion. dont worrx there is a man out there for u. u just have to be patiant and live everyday happy to be in this world. remember ur not promised tomorrow.
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