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*scaperealityxx
writes:I need some help and some advice!My ex of fifteen months broke up with me a few months ago. The only reason I've had since then was that we argued too much. However, he cancelled our holiday, made me lose money and even burnt my things. Thing is, he has been around since I was fifteen. I have never, ever moved on from him. I can't help it, there is something about him that no matter what he does do me, I will always run back to him, I will always talk to him. I don't know how to stop this "attraction". There's nothing good about him, he treated me awfully and treated his other girlfriends badly, yet I can't help it. As stupid as it sounds, it's as if I'm addicted to him!Anyway after the break up we kept seeing each other. Only on his terms. But I was a bit happier this way, at least I got to see him. He used to say such nice things, got what he wanted, then I ran off and left, couldn't bare the arkwardness. He used to text me every morning, every night. He texted Monday to say Morning, I said that he was up very early..and since then, I've had nothing. Not one text. I know now he's okay because he's been talking to his sister on facebook. I emailed him, nothing. I feel absoutely used. I don't know what to do to get rid of this pain and to stop any kind of attraction to him. He isn't healthy for me.I just don't understand why so much contact, and now I have nothing?, back to square one?!My friends have said maybe he found someone else and is keeping the option of me open. For example, a while ago I texted and he told me to F off, whereas this time....nothing. I just don't know where to go from now. Hope someone can help me :-(
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reader, escaperealityxx +, writes (29 July 2010):
escaperealityxx is verified as being by the original poster of the question Wow thanks guys, that made me feel better.
Yes it is a horrible situation to be in and I have been in it for quite sometime now, really need to get out of it although he's the one that's done it first, he's already stopped contact. It makes you get such a sick feeling in your gut.
Thank you for your help x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2010): Let me tell you this - you can't be friends with someone who loved in the past and didn't love you. All you do is bring up old pain...you become trapped in the past and it prevents you from moving forward. As hard as it is, delete this guy from your phone, stop calling him and tell him to leave you alone. You are done. He doesn't love you. Get busy finding someone who does.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2010): This is a horrible situation to be in, when your with him your misserable but glad you have him and when your not with him your misserable but know your better off without him...
I've been in this situation before and i know this is easier said than done but the only way your going to be able to move on is just ignore him, dont text, call, email or even talk to him and if tries to contact you... IGNORE HIM!! Everytime you talk to him you will miss him and end up running back to him. He Sounds like a horrible boyfriend who cares about himself more than he will ever care about a girlfriend. Concentrait on yourself, go out with your friends, work hard at your job/studies and i know this may sound silly but joining the gym saved me! I got my confidence back, i met my new boyfriend there who i love more than i ever thought possible, and it gave me something to do so i wasn't lonely or bored! you will look and feel great about yourself and it wont take you long to realise that your better than him and deserve a real man who will treat you as you deserve!!! xx
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