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writes:I recently started school and I met this awesome professor. I have the biggest crush on him... It's just awesome to be around him, he's incredibly smart and witty but at the same time he's easy to talk to and incredibly funny... He's just awesome.I had to go to summer school first because the professors wanted me to catch up with some stuff since I just moved into this country and the educational system is differente. When he was teaching the class he'd always look at me and not the rest, he always tries to sit with me at lunch and he's always invading my personal space and stuff. Rumors has it he had something with a student about a year ago so I probably have a chance with him.I just don't know how to proceed, I know there's something going on because of the way he treats me but I don't know how to treat HIM. (He's 31 and I'm about to turn 18, the girl he apparently had something with was 18 back then, she's 19 now.)ANYWAYS, WHAT SHOULD I DO?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI really don't mind getting into his bed, he looks like an excelent fuck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, I'm not actually from Colombia, I'm from Panama.
We have the same rules as in USA, you're not supposed to date a teacher and a teacher shouldn't date a student, it's against the rules and thanks to the age difference it's also illegal... But everybody does it anyways.
I just couldn't find the Panama option for my country. Anyways. Apparently it lasted about two or three months before graduation and after that the chick left to the USA so they end it... I'm still not sure if it was a sexual or an emotional relationship.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (14 March 2010):
 Hola,
I see you live in Colombia, home of the some of the world's most amazing ? ? ? ? music.
I'm not sure what the rules are, regarding relationships between professors and students. I wouldn't do anything to jeopardize his position.
My personal feelings are, that you're an adult (I'm not sure about Colombia but in most countries you're considered an adult at 18+). I feel that it should be your decision. But, if the rules are against it, you shouldn't jeopardize his job.
Are you sure that this is true, that he was involved with another girl at your uni? It may just be a rumor.
I'm not saying you have no chance with him, but I would look into what the rules are about professors and students... do you still have him as a professor?
I would wait until you're 18 and no longer his student. If he reciprocates your feelings, and it's "kosher" then *perhaps* something could happen between you.
He is a much older man, though, and things didn't seem to work out with this other girl. Don't let him pressure you into doing anything that makes you uncomfortable.
Qué te sea leve :)
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reader, ckdgirl  +, writes (13 March 2010):
I have feelings for my instructor in a sport as well. He's 28 and I'm 16. Him and I are sexually involved.You have to know for sure if he's interested. Talk to him one day after class and ask for his number and then ask for a date. What's he going to do? Say there's no way he's going anywhere with you? So no worries, do what your heart tells you. And keep it a secret at school for sure because that's not somthing you'd want coming out cuz you could get him in trouble. And the very least, it could help bump up ur grade in that class right?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2010): When teachers have the hots for you and try to impress and charm you, giving you a crush on them, just ignore them completely so you won't be distracted with your grades in school. Also, the boys your age who might want to date you or flirt with you will be able to if there's no seemingly impossible competition around such as a teacher.
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