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writes:dear cupid i have recently got back in to touch with an ex boyfriend we Broke up on bad term yrs ago but as i said we got back in touch and we are friends but i have realised i still have feeling for him and he said he just wants to be friends so do i tell him how i fell and risk losing him as a friend and do i keep quite and keep our friendship
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2018): My dear just walk away and have no contact or just accept he only wants to be friends( if you can handle being just friends). Who knows maybe in time he may end up wanting to be more then friends again, for now he just wants to be friends and nothing more.Maybe the break up affected him more then you realise and he has built up a shield. Anyway Can you be his friend for now or are your feelings too strong ?If so then just walk away for your sake and your hearts sake Hun. Look to the future and leave the past in the past, and babe your lucky he wants to be your friend not many exes want to be friends with an ex. X
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2018): No, sweetheart, you have to end the friendship and stop torturing yourself.
Your friendship is under false-pretenses; only to maintain access and stay within close-proximity. At the same-time, your heart is yearning to be even closer. He will see other guys, and that will break your heart and make you jealous. You will always have to put on a phony smiley-face to pretend that's okay with you. His new boyfriend(s) will want rid of you! They'll know you're an ex, and automatically suspect you still have feeling for him.
What gets even worse, is when he falls in-love with someone! You will become threatened by their closeness. You will feel betrayed and pushed aside. Then what? You'll call too much, you'll compete and act-up for attention, and you'll become a wedge. He will get tired of it, and kick you to the curb anyway!
Boyfriend, get a grip! Move on!
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (24 April 2018):
 If one person have romantic feelings it's almost impossible to remain friends. Because FRIENDS do NOT have romantic feelings towards the other.
The longer you "keep" him around as a "friend" with hopes that HE might eventually feel the same... the longer you are going to pour salt in your own wounds.
Either you HAVE to accept that ALL he wants is totally PLATONIC friendship or you need to cut him loose and wish him well.
It doesn't sounds like you are really ready to be his friend and nothing more. Which means, I think you would be better off cutting him loose.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2018): He has told you he wants to just be friends so no point telling him is there? You'll make it awkward, either accept his friendship or break off contact. If he has feelings for you he will let you know, males do.
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