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writes: I am 15 and I have a twin brother. Nothing has ever happened between us but the other day I walked into the bathroom and he was in the bath and I saw that his penis was erect. Since then I have had fantasies of him making love to me and I know that that is wrong but I can't get them out of my mind. Has anybody else felt the same way about their brother and how did they get over it? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2007): The reason you are fantasizing about your brother is because you obviously became sexually aroused when you saw his erect penis. There is nothing "wrong" with you feeling this way. it is quite normal for a girl to become sexually aroused seeing a guy this way. Also, since he is your twin brother, you are probably both very close to each other, since you are probably identical twins. And you probably also trust him because of that closeness.
Many siblings have had some kind of sexual experience with each other, and it happens a lot between brother & sister twins. Only you can determine if you should act on this fantasy. If you do, be sure to use condoms or some other type of birth control. Or limit it to oral or anal sex. But think long and hard if you decide to become sexually involved with your brother, as many problems could result from it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2006): OK, difficult. I've never felt this way before, and I'm glad I haven't. The reason you feel like this is probably because you've never seen a guy naked before, right? Well, either way, you need to demolish these feeilngs for your brother right NOW! Imagine how he'd feel if he knew. Imagine how you'd feel if he knew. Imagine how the whole family would feel if they knew.Perhaps you are just imagining making love to someone, and because your brother is the only guy you've seen naked, you imagine making love to him. The easy way around it is to make up a dream guy, think about what he would look like and how he would behave. Imagine making love to him instead of your brother, and maybe that will clear these thoughts.Some of the agony aunts on this page have told you that this feeling is abnormal. I wouldn't worry about that, I've been on this site befoe, and I have seen loads of other questions where people have fancied their siblings. Don't worry, there's nothing wrong with you. XxXxX
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2006): Your brother is probably the only guy you've seen naked. Incest is obviously very taboo, for a number of reasons. But my guess is that you're not really fantasizing about your brother - you're fantasizing about sex, and his is the body that conveniently fills in.
I think the easiest way to get over this is to stop thinking that it means anything. Accept that sometimes the mind gets weird thoughts, and you're best to just set them aside. It's normal to think about sex as a teenager. You just need to find a better subject. Worst case scenario, buy a magazine with sexy guys in it and try fantasizing about them.
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reader, juliagulia  +, writes (8 March 2006):
 You should definitely not act on this impulse. I think maybe you are curious about something that is "forbidden" and that may be a pretty common way to feel, actually. Just try to divert your thoughts when you think about things you know are wrong and should never, never happen. You are just feeling a lot of things right now because of your age and your hormones are racing! Maybe you should find another guy (not related to you, please!) that you can focus some attention on instead. Good luck to you.
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reader, Angelicc +, writes (8 March 2006):
 i haveny myself have felt that way but i have read about a few people who have. some have acted upon it, the others haven't. the real question is do you really wanna act up on it, your brother may not feel the same way, if your parents found out it could destory your family. you have to really think about it, some fantasies arent meant to be act upon. just try you best to think of other guy...thats all i can think of that you could do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2006): People have fantasies about everything (sexual), so don't think that your having a fantasy about a sexual relationship with your brother is unusual or unique. As to how others (you) get over this fantasy, I suggest that you think about the consequences of incest. If it happened only once (but became known to others), this would affect you for the remainder of your life. In addition, it would affect your family's reputation as well. Anybody who would seek to hurt or harm you couldn't ask for a more unacceptable (in western civilization) situation than being able to gossip about your having committed incest. One more thing; I guarantee that if you commit incest, it will not be a secret for long regardless of what you and your brother pledge to or think.
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reader, terri palmer +, writes (8 March 2006):
Hi thereI think you are worrying about this too much.. It is natural to have sexual thoughts at your age.. it is all part of growing up.. Seeing your naked brother in the bath has bought about feelings of excitement, confusion, guilt.. etc.. Please try not to worry too much about this.. You know that he is your brother and these fantasies are just that 'fantasies'.and you should treat them as such. One day you will meet a man who will make you feel as good as you feel in those fantasies of yours.. until then try to put this behind you.. Im sure your brother is trying his best too!! lol.One tip... might be a good idea to get a lock on the bathroom door to avoid such an embarrassing encounter again.Take careTerri
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reader, willywombat +, writes (8 March 2006):
 No this is abnormal and must not be acted upon. This is known as incest and is a major taboo in western society and for good reason. Dont even go there.
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