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writes:hi i am 22 years old and i finally met the guy i was talking to for over 2 years..we got to know each other online through a common friend,started as texting but then we started talking everyday!..and we finally met,he came down to my city for 3 days..we went out, drove around it was going great but i expected more from him..i expected him to hold my hand say he likes me..when we spoke on the phone he shared everything with him, we never told each other we like each other or anything but we knew there was something more than friends here..even when we met he shared everything with me, i just felt like i was showing more emotions towards him than he should have, when he was leaving i held his hand for like 5 mins not wanting him to leave, he dint do it, he did hug me, he said he had to get back since he had lot of work on stand still..i am just disappointed cuz i thought he felt the same way and i am totally falling for this guy!what do i do now? i asked him to call me when he reached his place and he did and i dint answer! do u think i should tell him how i really feel? or just go with the flow?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionso he texts me today and says why have i started my disappearing act? since i didn't respond to his call last nighti just felt like i showed so much more emotions towards him than he did,and it hurt me..i thought he felt the same way..i feeel very strongly for hiis guy,though we live in different cities i am ready to make the commitment, he has had a couple of bad relationships which has ended really bad and that has made him commitement phobic i guess!i am thoroughly disappointed.:(
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2011): I agree that you should not play games, though I understand that you may not have been able to answer as you did not have things straight in your head. I suggest that one of the reasons that you can tell each other everything on the phone but it is a bit differnt in person is because that was the first time you have been in each others physical presence - that is a way different experience. On the phone etc there is protection - defense there shielding you if you like - while i person you are more vulnerable and perhaps more unsure of things. If you really like him then just keep giving it a shot. Try to see each other again little by little.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (8 April 2011):
 So, he called and you didn't answer... so what is HE thinking now? Maybe that you don't care, didn't want to talk to him after meeting him for real?Life is to short to play games and if you don't take any risks, you never get anything. Trust me on that. Lazy/Coward, they are pretty much the same thing.Go with the flow, slowly but make sure it flows forward. If it doesn't happen then, at least you gave it a shot.Call him or whatever you do normally and simply honestly tell him you really, REALLY liked it. Not gushing, just making it very clear and if he doesn't take the hint (as in asking if you want to do something again), hint again.Then at least you will know.Scaredy cats stay alone and that is no fun.
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