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writes: I have been with my boyfriend now for 2 and a half months. The problem is some days I really love him and then I have other days when I think I don't if I do. I don't want to finish with him because I know that I will miss him so much and I also wouldn't get him back if I did finish him but I am so confused. My partner works continental shifts which makes the time that we spend together very limited and when he is not at work he makes time to see me and also tries to do a university course through home. I feel left out at times but I know that his future depends on his uni work and I dont understand why I feel so insecure about this as he gives me unlimited love and affection when I need.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2007): 2 and a half months. honey, wait till its been longer. if you already dont know if you love him anymore, you guys arent gonna last long.
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (1 May 2005):
 Perhaps you aren't ready yet for a fully committed relationship. However, judging from what you say, although he gives you unlimited love and affection, you still feel a bit left out of his life. Perhaps this is what the real issue is here, that you aren't spending enough time together. If you were able to spend more quality time together, you may then be able to establish exactly what you do feel for him.It may be the case that you will have to wait until he finishes uni before he can spend more time with you which means you will have to consider whether you really want a part-time relationship. It isn't his fault as he is trying to secure his future but it may be that you need a bit more from a relationship.Discuss your concerns with him. There may be a way that you can spend more time together. You know you will miss him if you do break up but you still need to establish if you do truely love him or not and whether you can wait for him to finish his studies.Try to talk to him and discuss ways of trying to spend more time together.I hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2005): You have only been going out for a short while together so you are bound to still (wonder) about the feelings you really have for your partner.If he is working shifts too you may just be feeling a little lonely but hey he has to work.As a relationship develops then so do the feelings usually.I am sure that given a little time you will truely know the answer in your own heart and will act accordingly.Just remember you will never know unless you give it a good try. I hope that this may help you a little.
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