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writes:Hey, I Would Really Appreciate it if someone could pass over some advice ! I'm struggling greatly with my confidence and self esteem, i was bullied at school and struggle to find myself attractive or nice to be with, i have to be honest i do have a lot of friends but i still feel like a great embarrassment to them and i put my self down greatly when i don't have a boyfriend or when my friends make other plans without me even tho that is totally not there fault ! i was so greatly depressed a few months back i sadly took an overdose and was taken to hospital I'm glad to say I'm fine now and feeling better however I'm still suffering with a slight case of depression. I slept with a lad few weeks back realising even though we've been friends for a while and he said he liked me he used me only for one thing ! I'm so upset and don't know what to do with myself I'm not a bad person i just don't understand what makes me so unlovable ! i guess in some ways wen i do find a lad i just wanna cling on because its what i want so bad but i don't want to act like that to put them off! its a bit of a weird situation but any ideas or advice anyone please :) xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2007): Dear you should talk to a counselor. There might be something completely beyond your grasp that might be going on in your head that you can't even detect because it is subconscious. This might be causing your depression. Perhaps your family isn't supportive. But all you need is guidance and to be released from that thought in your head that is causing your angst.
I used to be bullied cause I had low self esteem and was very overweight. So I lost the weight became attractive and was lucky enough to surround myself around people in my life who were very accepting and supportive of me (self conscious as I was). That really helped and even boosted my ego. All I was lacking was acceptance. And once I got it, believe it or not, I was cured.
You don't need a ton of friends to be accepted. All you need is a handful or less who simply love you and accept you for who you are. It is about quality not quantity.
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reader, baybee-x-sparkii +, writes (21 August 2007):
 okiie dokiie...
a boyfriend isnt everything sweetie and being upset when you dont have one maybe isnt the best way to go about things, try not looking it works ;)dont be upset with your friends you never know one day they could be doing that to give u a fab surprise or something. always try and look on the positive side of things
this lad is obviously not worth it babe, if he used for one thing it does truly show how pathetic he is.... and i bet theres someone out there hu does care enuf and u jst havent found him yet, and truly there is no problem with that.
good luck i hope everything gets better
if u wanna chat jst drop me an email
xxxx
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