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writes:Relationship advise wanted! I am 24 and my boyfriend is 30. We have been together for just over 5 years, but I am starting to feel like things are getting a little boring. He is awesome, but I am not ready for marriage and I have not had a sexual relationship with anyone other than him. Should I ignore my desire to go and date since this guy is so great or should I break things off and risk that I may not meet someone as supportive and kind? I am torn because he is marriage material but when I go to the bar with my girlfriends I look at every hot guy thinking I wish I were single...help!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2007): Sounds like you have a special man -- my advice is appreciate him and stop going to bars with girlfriends! You say he is marriage material that he is supportive and kind -- that is rare.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2007): PLEASE,PLEASE,if you feel hesitant in anyway,get out while you can.I just wish I had listened to my gut feelings and ran the other way. I was so lonely and wanted so much to love this man and help "fix all the problems in his life" ex. with his CRAZY ex-wife and his kids. Felt like I could help him. All I got was 6 years of hell and stuck in a no win situation. Just wish I had listened to my own inner instincts and not what my head told me to do. Good luck sweetie.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2007): You should probably break up with him. You can tell him that you are not "marriage material".
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reader, Jendorset  +, writes (16 February 2007):
Why does it matter that he is marriage material. You dont HAVE to get married. If you are looking at every guy thinking ''hes so hot i wish i was single'', how are you going to stay faithful to your husband and have a decent marriage. You could always put effort into and spice things up, like having sex in loads of diffrent or weird places, or places you have never done it before. Or just going for a trip somewhere neither of you have ever been. Theres so many things you could do to revive your relationship, im 100% sure you could find a book on spiceing things up. BUT, if you dont love him anymore, finish it. How could you seriously think about staying with someone JUST because he is so-called ''marriage material''.
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reader, prisca chizoba wobo  +, writes (16 February 2007):
since you have spent 5 years with him and you are sure he is a marriage material though you did not say your measuring yardstick 4 good, i will advise you stick on him.
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (16 February 2007):
 I think you should stay with your current partner, you have been together for five years and sounds like a really nice guy.
Say you were to ditch him, you could find yourself playing the dating game for a long time. You might look at those guys at the bar and think WOW, but a month or two with one of them you may think they are not so good after all and wish you were with your supportive and kind boyfriend.
The grass is always greener on the other side, invarably till you get there.
I think if you got rid of your guy you will come to regret it further down the line.
Of couse this is just my opinion, you must do what you feel is right of course.
Hope this helps you, and good luck x
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