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writes:I have been married for almost 2 yrs now, but I have never really stop loving my sons father. We talk everyday I feel more connected to him than my husband. I have always felt very comfortable with him and to this day still can talk to him about any and everything, which is something I haven'y been able to do with my husband. We don't talk, Have sex, he has no passion and rarely shows affection. But with my son's father I have experienced all of those things. We only stopped dating because I found out he had cheated on me in my early stage of pregnacy and he has a drinking problem (he doesn't know how to say no to a drink and then ovr drinks). We still love eachother very much I feel I would do anything for him and I could get the same from him. He is a very great person when he doesn't drink. My husband doesn't drink and I think he loves me but he spends alot of time trying to please his mother. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2008): Your husband doesn't sound right for you, but your child's father doesn't either.
You cuold try leaving your marriage and going back to your ex, but he's not gonna change his addiction & cheating ways.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2008): So why did you marry this current guy? Are your conversations with the ex causing problems with the current guy? Having a relationship with the ex will not help your current relationship, it will surely split you and your current apart.
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reader, malvern  +, writes (2 May 2008):
 If things are not working with your husband you should get out of the marriage. You're only yong and you've got a long life ahead of you. You're not being fair to him or to yourself. If you feel the way you feel about your ex you should go back to him. You've already forgiven him just by being the way you are with him. Througout our lives we find only one, possibly two people that we really connect with. It's a rare thing. Your marriage sounds doomed. I know from experience that the situation will not improve. It's possible your ex may curtail his drinking once you are back together becasue by being there you will have given him a purpose in life.
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