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writes:I am sorry that there is loads of topics like this, but seriously this is the only place i can post this where you won't get laughed at!!!. I am in sixth form and 19 years old, and for the last 2 years.. (since about jan 08) I have had feelings for one of my teachers. She is about 10 years older than me, but i am mature for 19 and she doesnt seem as old as she is. We are like really good friends. I know that she is a lesbians (she said that out of all of her pupils she really didnt mind telling me because id told her i was..(during a low moment!)) and i've heard remours she has a girlfriend but meh!Anyways so over the last two years we have become close friends. I know lots about her life outside of school, her habits and routines. I know where she lives (well the area!) what she does on the weekend. She confides in me when shes feeling down.. and i do the same. I always stay after school and talk and today i was even with her for a while after the lesson had finished and i hadnt even been to the lesson because i had been on a trip!She always jokes about how im too old to be a student now coz i should have left last year and i also take the mick out of her in a jokey way! We are so relaxed around each other. she mirrors my body language and last week at a parents evening she was talking to me instead of my mum, well no she was talking to my mum but looking at me. even my mum mentioned.I have a real urge to tell her i like her.. but i dont know she keeps saying that when i leave in june everything changes i just wish i knew what she meant!!!!!!!!
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reader, Drat001 +, writes (31 December 2010):
I hope you're still around to read this.
If have already graduated, then it is perfectly acceptable to have a relationship with a former teacher. Ten years age difference really isn't anything. Several women date older women, even much older women. It's not a big deal, it's not even a medium deal. If two people love each other, there's nothing wrong with being together.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (9 March 2010):
 Dear anonymous, you are right that it is not illegal, but it is classed as gross misbehaviour within the education field. If a teacher dates a pupil who is currently at their school, they will loose their job, they will be unable to get a decent reference and will find it difficult to ever work with children again.
It is not illegal, but the teacher is in a position of trust and power. Relationships with students are difficult for all kinds of reasons, the main one being, how is the school to know if sex is not being given for better grades. Teachers are still vulnerable, even when the person is over the age of consent.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2010): in response to 'celtic tiger'
it is not illegal, student/teacher relationships are only illegal when the student is under 18 and the post clearly states that she is 19.
if you both like eachother go for it, good luck!
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reader, green568  +, writes (14 February 2010):
listen just wait to u leave school
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2010): i say wait to ur done school than tell her...so u wont get in any trouble but u should tell her just be careful...u know its some sick ppl out there
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (12 February 2010):
 I hate to say this, but you need to back off.
Regardless of sexual orientation, or age, what she is doing is wrong.
If as a teacher, she is hinting that she may like you more than she should, this is totally against the law and the rules of her job.
"she keeps saying that when i leave in june everything changes i just wish i knew what she meant"
If she does anything, including spending more time with you than she should, and confiding with you in an innapropriate fashion - ie disclosing personal issues etc, that is also way beyond the boundaries of what is correct in a teacher/pupil relationship.
You are over 18, but still a pupil. These rules apply even at University. It is because of duty of care, professional conduct and abuse of a position of power. Teachers are not allowed to have relationships with pupils.
You are still young, and she is being manipulating. She knows you like her. It will be so obvious, even if you think you are trying to hide it. Teachers are trained to pick up on inappropriate affections from students so we can nip it in the bud before things get out of hand.
Everyone has a crush on a teacher at some point in their life. The key is knowing that it is a crush. It is not real, and it will not last. Nothing will happen - it is more than their jobs worth. If it does, then they are committing gross misconduct at best, child abuse at worst.
"she keeps saying that when i leave in june everything changes i just wish i knew what she meant"
She knows that she cannot overstep the mark, so effectivly she is grooming you and keeping you sweet until you are "legal" so to speak. Be careful. She may be a serial predator, and have done this before.
Walk away, move on.
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