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writes:I have suffered from an illness in which I could not go outside on my own which started when I was a teenager. I had a couple of dates when I was a teenager but never met anyone special. I am now 41 years old and had counselling 5 years ago which helped me with my problem. I have never dated except for when I was a teenager and would have liked to have children but it doesnt look like that is going to happen. I was very bitter for a while as I feel that my life has passed me by. Butas they say life begins at 40 and I have a lot of catching up to do. I had a boyfriend for a while as a teenager but now I wouldnt know where to start. I would love to have a partner but thats not the only thing. How do you start a new life. I dont have many friends and do not get on with my family. I dont know where to start. Reply to this Question
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (25 August 2008):
I think online dating could be good for you, or even speed dating, since you are in a hurry!
Do something a bit daring and have fun. But since you are inexperienced be very careful. There are a lot of jerks out there, especially at your age as many of the good guys will have been snapped up.
Never have sex until at least the 4th date, or a few weeks or whenever you are ready, no matter how incredibly well it went, they will lose respect for you if you do it too soon.
Now you are cured then join as many social things as you can. It's not all about finding a man. Writer's groups, artists groups, sports groups, dr who fans, book clubs. Just google your town and what ever you want to do and something will come up.
There is a whole world out there now... go for it all!
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Tempz +, writes (24 August 2008):
you need to find the right person.
whom will spend time with you inside your house.
when you feel comfortable enough..
you should be strong enough to go out.
Try online dating ;) x
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2008): Hey,
I think that you should try some churches in your area. Did you say you are Butas? I don't know a lot about that religion, but I think if you involve yourselve in some kind of group settings that you will begin to meet many new people. Try your local library, they usually have functions monthly. Perhaps local centers, even volunteering yourself somewhat, I don't know about your illness, but I know that if you give of your time to others that good will surely come your way. I am a christian and I do know if you do good unto others that good will then come to you. Just be confident in who you are and do give love a try. I think if you surround yourself with good people that help others then you will meet someone that is going to be good to you. God Bless You.
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