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writes:long explanation but here it goes...childhood for me was not great. parents split when i was 5. was back and forth between the 2 till 11yrs old. i watched my mother marry ten times(yes i said 10) and my father i think 3 or 4. i said that to say this, i love this man i have been with for a bit over a year and who has just proposed but due to our dishonesty in the beggining and a few actions have created a bit of sum trust issues with each other and i think has made me VERY JEALOUS. he will look at a girl n maybe not stare, but will glance over at her several times(in my mind it subsitutes the elongated stare), i will look at him n wait for him to look at me n i will give him an evil/or not happy look and he gets VERY PISSED and very hatefully says "oh GOD! ---followed by this shit gets old. Have i addressed my feelings about him with this? of course. does it do any good for either of us?, absolutley not!! and it is starting to take a huge toll on our relationship and i am very concerned for us and for myself. in every relationship before him, i have been cheated on and maybe it all stems from that. im reaching out because i need a solution, does anyone have one!!!!!
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reader, The Girl in the Green Scarf  +, writes (4 July 2009):
 Its a hard situation. Some say that all jelousy stems from somewhere, maybe your subconsious is telling you something? But i have been in a similar relationship and i ended up having my boyfriend resent me and my jelousy issues (for good reason) because he never ever did anything wrong. Men are people to and im sure you have glanced at a good looking man here and there and it means nothing. Aslong as hes being upfront and honest you have to give him the benifit of the doubt or youll push him away. Worst case scenereo is he did/does cheat and would you really want a man that needs more then one women? ofcourse not. I say just take it one day at a time and aslong as you tell yourself to calm down and dont snap at him for EVERY glance (pick you battles wisely) things will get better. Hes just frusterated and tires and you'll have to fix this issue soon or the relationship isnt likely to last.Hope that helps!
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (4 July 2009):
 ok u have insecurity issues developed out of your past.
your parents married loads of times and not shown u stability within love and your ex cheated on you.
all these emotions are brought up when your bf stares at another women, maybe u misinterpret his intentions but it effects u emotionally.
u really need to work on yourself and build up some self esteem, and not get jealous over every girl he stares at.
he cud be staring bcoz she is standing in his way or because she is there doesnt mean he wants to jump into bed with her.
try reading self help books, they will really help tackle those jealousy issues and explain to your bf u dont mean to get angry just it reminds u of past instances.
good luck
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