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writes:I really need help on this. Last year I was on a trip to Europe (for work) and I met this amazing Spanish guy. He was smart and good looking and i was head over heels in love with him. We spent a bit of time together and it was amazing! Nothing sexual...just generally as friends. I discovered he had a girlfriend for the last 8 years, and i dont know why, but i was a little upset...not because i wanted to be with him...because thats not possible, since i barely know him and we'r continents apart....but just generally it was upsetting. Anyway, so I got back home, we exchanged a few mails, he's on my facebook, but we'r not really in touch. The thing is...Im still not able to forget this guy. I have an AMAZING boyfriend (who i met after I got back from Europe, but I had always known him since school), he treats me like a princess, I really cant ask for anything more in a man. But i still miss this Spanish guy...and its killing me. Iv stopped accessing my facebook account, because every time i do, i end up clicking on his profile and just looking at his pics...which is weird...but i cant help it.My boyfriend doesnt know about any of this...and I feel so bad...but I cant help it. How do I get this man out of my head? Should I just tell him how I feel? Maybe that would give me the closure that Im looking for? What should I do? Thanks for taking time to read...and thanks for the advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question@ Bruce Lee, i wanted to clarify, there's no way i can end up with the Spanish guy. as i said, we'r continents apart, and he has a girlfriend. I just need to get him out of my head, because i feel so deeply for him, even though i have a boyfriend. I dont know how on earth im supposed to do it. I end up reading his old mails at times, looking at his pics on facebook, and then i feel i should just tell him all this. I know it wont change anything, but i just want to...i just want an opinion on what i should do.
@trancedrhythmear: thanks for the advice...i need to block him i think
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reader, bruce lee  +, writes (28 September 2010):
 Well, I think you need to clarify the question a bit.
Let me get this straight...You don't know whether you want the Spanish guy or your current boyfriend? Is that the question?
I think you should listen to your head and ignore your heart. Do whatever your head says. Enjoy the day, and God bless.
Sometimes, your heart can cause you to make bad decisions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2010): I see well I dont know how thats relevant miss. Either way youre at a distance with this guy and should cut him out of your life and block him so you can focus on your current relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2010): Hi!
Telling your boyfriend about someone you met previously before him will make him jealous and upset. I see this guy as a friend only. If you feel guilty about this, and its upsetting, block this guy off your facebook so you can move on with your current relationship. Of course you can always unblock but ppl Ive run across whom Ive known may not be good for me, Ive blocked and never unblocked just because it makes sense for me not to have any contact with them. In your case, this guy is on another continent, two youre in a relationship and respect it (as you feel guilt about not telling your bf), three youre not really all that in touch anyway so just block the guy so youre not tempted to contact or even look at his pics. Best of luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust to clarify, Im from Italy, and based in the US for the last couple of yrs..
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