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male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi all!I have a problem with feeling needy and clingy every now and then and I plan to get rid of this!Now I've been reading a lot about feeling needy and clingy here and the good thing is that its already started to make me feel better, so, thank god for this website.I've never been in a real relationship before the present one(around 3 months old) and somehow over the last couple of weeks I've realised how needy and clingy I've been acting and its really bothering me.I am in love with this great gal who really loves me a lot but evry now and then I mess things up by acting all needy. I have a strong urge and habit of sharing all my feelings with her and I kinda expect a similar behaviour from her which I know is completely unfair, as I know tht we'r all different kinda ppl...So, when I don't get a similar treatment, as shes not the one to say or express evrything, it makes me rather insecure, unwanted, un-trusted(for lack of a better term), moanful and I end up spoiling both of our moods.The saddest part is that all the while I am at it, I realise how stupid I am behaving but there is nothing I am able to do to stop it. After all is said and done, I normally end up feeling really guilty and stupid and admitting it too. The only thing thats been saving me is the fact that I have complete confidence on the fact that she really loves me too and she actually listens to me moan evry now and then and usually ends up reassuring me. I realise this is a problem, and I am scared if I'll push her away by this stupid behaviour, also, it hurts me to hurt her whenever this happens.Plz help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2008): i was exactly like you are with my boyfriend and it pushed him away... you need to feel confident... she sounds like a great girl so you must be great too if she wants to be with you. enjoy your relationship ad try not to spend time worrying because its not good for you. think about it, there must be so many good things about you that she loves so dont be negative and cancel them out. good luck!!!
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