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writes:My ex boyfriend and I were together about five months. And through that entire five months we were soo happy together. We did everything with each other and spent nearly the entire day together all day every day. He would always want to see me and I wanted to see him. He usually would invite me places with him all the time, but then one day he wanted to go to a girls volleyball game and I knew his ex girlfriend played for that team. He didn't even bother to invite me either. I always trusted him before this but then I don't know what happened. Him and the girl go to the same school and I knew they were still friends and I had no problem with that. But I heard some of my friends that go to his school that he let his ex where his football jersey! And I know that doesnt' sound like a big deal, but in High School wearing a guy's jersey means you two are together and more than "just friends". I told him how it made me feel but he didn't seem to get why I got really mad about her wearing it. A week after the volleyball game and jersey incident we talked and made up. But then the next day he decided that he didn't want to be with me anymore! I was walking out of his room to leave after we broke up, but he pulled my arm and gave me a big hug! He asked me to promise not to hate him, but I didn't say anything. Instead he started to cry and so did I. I looked at him and he kissed me and then I said I had to go. That really hurt me. The day after we broke up my brother and sister [who go to his school] told me he was down and depressed all day! I was too. But then the following week he was back with his ex! Now when we see each other we don't even make eye contact. I try to avoid him as much as possible b/c I don't want to hurt again. Everytime I see him or his girlfriend I get very emotional and I just want to cry;it's like the day we broke up all over again. I just want to know what he's thinking. I still love him very much and I don't know if we'll ever get back together. I have a new boyfriend now but he doesn't mean to me what my ex meant to me. Will we ever be together again?
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reader, dt1213 +, writes (20 December 2008):
Well honestly i think that once you fall in love with someone, it never will fully go away. So in that case, i really dont recommend that you ignore your feelings for your ex. I think that you should actually call him up, or maybe go over his house (not when his girlfriend is there of course) and have a long talk with him. Tell him exactly how you feel and how heart broken you are that you lost him. Try to bring back old memories and show him how perfect the past was, and how you wish it could have lasted. Dont be afraid to spill your heart out to this kid. make sure he knows that he means everything to you and that youd give anything to have him back. It should work out well for you since you said he was down all day after the break up. You also got the boy to cry which is difficult for most girls to do. That really shows how much he cares about you. Whatever you do, dont wait too long. YOu dont want to give him time to get over you.
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