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*ampHead
writes:I was going to have sex with my girlfriend of only 2 weeks, when I was 14, almost 15. I know this was a stupid thing to do, and I should never have even considered it, but I felt ready. It was my one chance, and I didn't want to muck it up. I was staying in her back garden with her, in a tent (Ha), as I had been to a party with her. She had already made me ejaculate previously in the night, and it was 2 in the morning when I eventually asked her to have sex. We had talked about it previously, and I knew there was a small chance we might be having it, but I was'nt sure.She had said something along the lines of 'Oh, come on then, lets get it over' Which I think may have put me off slightly, it was also very cold and uncomfortable as I had no mattress, if that had anything to do with it?I had condoms, and put one on, but even as she was undressing and I was just putting the condom on, I was loosing my erection. I couldn't keep it up, but we tried anyway. There was no go. I'm coming up 16 now, but still worry about that night, as a few people in my school found out, and spread it, and everyone knows and takes the piss out of me on occasion.This keeps the whole night fresh in my mind, and I would just like to forget about it. I still haven't had sex, but haven't tried since that night as I'm to scared. I'm normally extremely confident, and have no problems with getting girlfriends at all.I need to know if there is any way I can become less nervous in the bedroom? I have no problem with foreplay, and have done lots of stuff, with lots of girls, but I don't want to try having sex again. I can normally maintain an erection easily, but have a mental block when it comes to actual sex. I know I'm not gay, as I want to have straight sex badly, and have done other stuff with girls.Can you help me to sort my head out, and make it easier for me to have sex without getting nervous.I just want to not have the sex block in my head, and to be able to enjoy real sex with future girlfriends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2009): lol - there is no rush, you will spend the rest of you life doing it. Better to take time and enjoy.
seriously just take your time next time, make sure you are somewhere warm and nice and spend time touching etc. first.
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reader, LampHead +, writes (24 February 2009):
LampHead is verified as being by the original poster of the question Haha. I have tried putting them on, don't worry. Im legal in under 2 months, so not very long at all. When I was a kid, I wanted to loose my virginity on my 16th, to a girl I really loved. Maybe that had an influence. I mentally thought it was wrong?
I accidently posted this twice. If you search 'I was fine during foreplay but lost it during sex' Then it will come up, with a lot more answers from other people, and from me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2009): You are normal just a crap start. I think you were unfortunate in your first encounter and the pressure of your manhood waiting.
will it be different next time ? Yes. You have got the crappy dress rehseal over with.
With the next girl you should take time and have lots of non-full sex - lots of kissing and touching, then when you are both ready i am sure it will works itself out.
Ok ego now stroked - You are underage... behave.... sigh and well done for wearing a condom. You might want to practice putting them on so you find what works for you a little faster.....
Star.x.
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