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writes:I really like this guyhe isn't someone i go for but then again the people i go for turn out to be pricks, and he is the complete oppposite. i just feel really nervous around him like i have i like you on my forehead.i would love it for us to be together but i dont know where to start because i have a major fear of rejectionHELP! Reply to this Question
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reader, kenny +, writes (6 December 2007):
 Its only natural to fear rejection when you really like someone, everyone has been there at some point in their lives. I think the best thing you can do is rather than rush up to him and ask him out, and fearing a rejection, do your homework first. By that i mean let him know you like him in very small flirtatious gestures, like eye contact at first, try to keep the eye contact then smile and look away. Then maybe try to befriend him, get chatting, ask him what he did, or is up to at the weekend, and be really interested in things he says. By doing this you are ultimately building up a raport with him, and you can find out if he likes you without actually asking him, by his reactions to your flirtatious gestures. If you feel that things are being reciprocated then all well and good. But if you feel he is not interested, you won't have gone through the embarresement of asking him out and him saying no. I sure things will work out for you, give it a shot, and let the chips fall where they may.
All the best & good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2007): rise above it.
when you next see him let all your inhibitions and worries go to pot.
just think
the more confident you are around him, the less scary it'll be
just march in there, if you end up making a fool of yourself just laugh it off.
nobody can badly judge someone who can laugh at their own mistakes.
as for a fear of rejection - just don't worry about it! there is always a chance of rejection, however if you show him you are confident and fun by being able to laugh at yourself, it could be the beginning of a great friendship, so don't worry about rejection!
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