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writes:This is just it: I have a mad crush on my doctor. I'm sure it's some kind of transference type thing, but in the meantime, how do I keep from making a jerk of myself? I barely know the man, and he's not my type at all...so why is this happening...and how do I make it go away? I value and respect him very much and don't want this to be an issue. Please help. Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2013): I going thru the same situation and I am married !! yikes !! I know this an old thread but i was looking info regarding this subject and I found this.. My marriage has been so broken for soo long that I don't know if this is an escape for me.. My dh cheated on me a few times in the past last 18 yrs. We had trying counseling several times.. things improved for a while and then I see the same behavior pattern on him over and over again.. ( PLS excused my spelling and grammar) he has trying to change but i do not see any long terms and permanent changes.. I have been seeing this pain doctor for back pain for the last month ( discs ) and he is also my physical therapist.. he does listen to me, he is compassionate and very sweet..I don't know maybe it's just an infactuation (spell )? or something else.. i found myself listening to romantic songs,getting myself more to the gym ( go figure ) and taking care of my health more than never..I do need serious advice bcz I do not want to make the mistake to express my feelings to him and loose a good doctor..I find myself fantasizing about him all the time..I believe he is single and I can tell that he become a little nervous when he see me and keep the door of his office open when I am there.. Gees I feel so torn, ashamed and even excited sometimes to feel this way,, any advice on this pls.. ?? before my head explote !?I even posted an annonymous message to him on craiglist expressing my feelings to him.. I feel so dumb and stupid.. . thanks for your replies in advance..
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2010): I too have a huge crush on a certain doctor-acquaintance almost believing that he likes me. It is very difficult to make out if doctors are really attracted to you because of their bed side manners, kindness, compassion and so forth. But may be it is just my age and mid twenty crisis. He is young, handsome and single and belongs to my native place giving a certain bonding.
My 'friend' is not very friendly and yet, he has made himself accessible to me (I don't know if he does that to everyone or every girl he meets), doesn't talk to me much or pay attention to me during hospital hours but talks in a sweet, friendly, with a very warm smile afterwards. It has only happened twice and I couldn't take my eyes off him. I still can visualize his parting smile when our eyes were locked and he turned, still smiling not breaking our eye contact. And he would always smile when I talk and I can't stop smiling at him, weird!
I think I will always cherish those moments when a handsome young man would smile at me. And mind you, we have never had any physical contact, not even shaken hands. He is not flirting and I like him for it. He eyes never raked my body while I would have enjoyed it shamelessly. However, I have noticed him looking up and down at me (many men do, especially due to my height) and have always interpreted his steady gaze at my eyes during conversations as a great display of interest. It is probably a mutual genuine liking you feel for a person who is admirable.
I know I cannot refuse if he kisses me although I would never reveal my crush on him as it is a beautiful secret I want to keep in my heart. The moment he knows it it will break the spell.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2010): I too have a crush on my doctor. I didn't initially but then he started staring/making some serious eye contact where it was almost uncomfortable and I had to look away. He kept making follow up appointments--more than 12 in less than a year. I googled follow up appointments for my elective cosmetic procedure and the norm was around 4 in one year. Sometimes he seems shy around me and has a nervous cough. He repeats how great I look several times. The last appointment I felt a little uncomfortable because it was just me and him in a closed room and at the end of the appointment he wrapped him arm around me and rub my waist and sides several times. Was this just nervousness on his part? I guess I shouldn't really care but I hate to admit I do enjoy the attention. I feel guilty because I am married, a medical professional myself with small kids. I am married to the man of my dreams. We both work and things get hectic. So, why can't I stop thinking of Dr. McDreamy? I am very friendly but do not know how to cope but to worry about it?! I guess it is my guilty fantasy. . .
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2010): So I saw my doctor today. He seemed a bit reserve. I wish I hadn't told him that I had a crush on him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2010): I am going to see my doctor in the morning. Not sure how he will react knowing that I have a huge crush on him.
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reader, tth76  +, writes (18 June 2010):
I'm sorry, I didn't proofread. Chemo was not easy!
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reader, tth76 +, writes (18 June 2010):
I also have a crush on my doctor (Oncologist). I recently told him that I have a huge crush on him. He asked me if I would feel uncomfortable continuing to see him adn that he would find me another doctor.I told him I thought he may be the one who is incomfortable. He told me that he was flattered and is ok with it. I think my crush for him comes from the time I meet him. I had just finished chemotherapy and my old doctor was deployed. Going through chemo was easy. I felt unattractive and unwanted even thought my husband was by my side every minute. Then when I felt better about myself, I met this doctor. He gave me that attention that I didn't have. Anyways, I regret telling him that I have a crush on him. In the past, I haven kept it to myself, but this time I thought I had to tell him. He even asked me why I had the need to tell him. I told him I had to get it off my chest. I have to see him next week and don't know how he is going to react in person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2008): Don't worry. Crushes on doctors are common. I have a crush one of my doctors and a friend of mine has a crush on the same doctor. As long as you keep it in perspective, it's pretty harmless.
Some reasons you might feel the crush is that he listens to you and is caring and also that he's an authority figure.
Often crushes fade on their own given enough time. But even if the crush doesn't fade it can be ok. The important thing is that you know it's just a crush and won't ever go anywhere.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2008): Do not tell him. I told my doctor I liked him, bad mistake. He informed me he had a steady girlfriend of two years and now acts jumpy around me like I am going to jump him or something. Bad situation. To cap this off I have to work around this man too. Bad, bad situation. I suggest keeping your feelings to yourself and even maybe finding another doctor. Which I will have to do now. There is no way I will sit down in his office again, no way. I would be uncomfortable as I assume he would be too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2007): i think maybe u should make eye contact with him first and see how he reacts. After all, he IS human as well.If he responds well, then you need to use ur intuition as to what to do next depending on the circumstances ur in.
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reader, kenny  + ♥, writes (9 April 2007):
 I don't think its that you you acually fancy him, like as boyfriend material. I think you are more attracted to his position of authority. Some woman find themselves attracted to people in high profile jobs, such as doctors, teachers, police officers, ect. I woulden't worry to much about these feelings, in time they will pass.
good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2007): dont act out on your feelings, just try and be cool when around him-----in time it will pass......it's just a crush-----because he is an authority figure-----I am sure in about one year from now--if you go see him, you wont feel that way anymore--it will pass
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reader, Royofthe Rovers +, writes (9 April 2007):
 Simple way out would be to change doctor. However, good doctors can be hard to come by so i would use that as a last resort. It may be a security thing? I reckon this will pass over time. I would'nt worry too much about it.
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