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writes:I have been with my current partner for 4 months now, and everything is fine. It's long distance (100 miles). But I drive to see her once a week. However, my ex has recently come back in to my life. My ex and I both moved cross country for university, but due to a family bereavement I had to move home in my 2nd year, and we slowly lost contact 4 years ago. We met up for a drink over the weekend (bad move I know) and we got on to the discussion of 'what if's?'. My ex has told me she still has strong feelings for me, and I for her. What should I do?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (31 March 2016):
 If long distance does not work for you well then end things. You say everything is fine but you don't sound to enthusiastic about the relationship, so my advice would be to end it.
Yes it was a bad move meeting up for a drink, I bet it was behind your girlfriends back? You are already being dishonest, and that is not fair to your girlfriend, she deserves the truth.
If you feel you and your ex only split up because off the distance well then when you are single again take some time and get to know her again. Sometimes though an ex is just that for a very good reason, and moving backwards in life sometimes is the wrong thing to do.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (31 March 2016):
 Well, this is a shit or get off the pot moment.
EITHER you want to rekindle things with the EX.. OR you want to continue your LDR.
Doing both is obviously NOT OK.
If you decide on the ex, tell the LDR and cut of the contact with the LDR, let HER move on - don't do the "let's be friends"... it's patronizing.
If you decide on the LDR, you cut the contact with the ex. Because it's not fair to string her along and it's not fair on the LDR to have an ex of yours circling you like a shark in chum water.
This is something YOU have to decide.
I have to ask though, why did you and the ex break up? Just because you had to move? Or was there something else that happened to make this break up a "thing".
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