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writes:I am 17 and I have a huge crush on my vice principal and he is 58. He is always saying that I look stylish he is always placing his hand in my hair when I talk to my other teacher. Is he jealous? When I am with my friends he only says "hi, how are you" but when we are alone we always look at each other straight in the eyes and share a smile afterwords. He sometimes touches the upper and lower part of my back. I really like him and I know I shouldn't be flirting with him but he flirt with me too. He is always looking at me and when I look at him, he turns away. Once when I went in his office to talk but then we stopped talking and just smilled while looking into each other's eyes and a teacher came into his office and hit me on the arm so that I would stop looking at him like that. Another time he came in my class and my teacher asked him what he wanted but he didn't answer her he just looked and me and then said hi to me. He then said he was looking for someone and just left. I think he is flirting or else he wouldn't do these things. What should I do I really like him but I don't want him to be in trouble.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2007): Wow, thats quite the age difference. Well I dont think its really our fault who we love, but i do know that if this man ever behaved on these feelings that you might have for each other, than he is certainly in the wrong career, and he is probably just taking advantage of his position to seduce young girls.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2007): Well, I understand how you feel.. if it helps. I was madly in love with my media teacher in HS. He was 59 and I was 17. He too, flirted with me and went into classes that he knew I would be in. This went on from the time I was 15-17, but we both talked it over.. we agreed that we were just friends. I trusted him, but I also loved him very much, and he me. But because we loved each other, we realized that nothing could happen between us sexually. We respect each other too much to mess our relationship up in that sense. So now, I am 19 and he is 60-something.. still handsome (Richard Gere handsome,) but we are just friends. He is a big support factor in my life, and I wouldn't have it any other way. I can go to him for anything! and he is always there. So please, just be careful. I am not saying don't like him.. jeez, I am still in love with Mr. F.. but it's because I love him that keeps me from engaging in anything that could tear at our wonderful friendship. If he tries to engage in anything uncomfortable for you.. just tell him.. look I respect you.. and I want us to be friends, but I would never want to do anything to hurt our friendship. Just be honest with him.. that's all you can do! I am in a similar situation right now.. I really like my Philosophy professor.. he is 25 and I am 19... although the age difference isn;t that bad, I realize in it completely unethical for me to be him student and date him. (perhaps i'll drop his class.. haha J/K) Best wishes! - Courtney
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2007): I think you've mistaken a fatherly or even grandfatherly gesture for something more insidious. Don't make a complete fool of yourself by reading more into this than there actually is.
Phil
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2007): You must be joking....
If not joking, you misunderstood him. He is the age of your father or even grandfather and perhaps he likes you as a brilliant student and nothing more. If he is a genuine Principal, he would not be doing all this to attract you.
I am sure he is looking at you just by the way and you are just being too concious. Have some brains and if you are looking for love or attention get it from the right place.
If you continue to fantasize your Principal woulf end in a mess foir you and for him if you make it public.
Th reason he came in the class could be something but it was not you. He said Hi because he has noticed you look in his eyes and perhaps has thought you like him for any special reason like a father figure.
Stop this. Very recently I have learned my lesson when my wife's sister smiled at me, loved to be around me all the time and so on.... But I have found out from my many friends at "CUPID" that she trust me in many ways, since she may be looking at me as a very decent relation.
Look, I am fine now and am proud to be her big brother.
I TRUST you.
Love.
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reader, princess_sparkle  +, writes (5 October 2007):
NO, NO, NO! Please do not do anything to pursue this relationship. Chances are, this all in your imagination. Even if it is not, you have to forget about it, say nothing to no one, and try to move on. Saying something to anyone or doing something could get both of you into a heap of trouble.
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reader, Pinkbees09 +, writes (5 October 2007):
 Well I don't think your vice principal should be touching you the way he is. I think he likes you but please don't try to do anything dumb or else he will get introuble and will go to jail.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2007): why would you want someone that is old enough to be your dad or grandfather? If you don't want him in trouble than leave him alone.
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